Either the situation is worth the sacrifice or it isn’t. If you feel like you’re getting the short end of the stick, try taking into account the spiritual benefits of doing the right thing.
If that doesn’t tip the balance into feeling like you made the right choice, you probably made the wrong choice.
When one is actually clear about one’s values, and their relative position in one’s personal hierarchy, it relieves an enormous amount of existential stress.
If this kind of thing is bothering you regularly, then you probably need to update your definition of “asshole”.
Money doesn’t corrupt people. Corrupt people are just better at getting money.
Not true. Money often does corrupt people, because money is very often the means to power, and power definitely corrupts most people over time.
This got me thinking. What about people who get rich by luck, winning a lottery or something?
They aren’t corrupt, but they’ll surely turn into assholes anyway, when they justify their luck to themselves and start doing asshole actions to guard their precious money. It’s the same thing with inheritance or getting lucky in business. They’ll talk about “self-made” success, even if they just bought a lottery ticket.
In my opinion, money does corrupt people. It’s just through ordinary greed. Litteral corruption or cheating isn’t even necessary to see this effect that money has.
You don’t need to do asshole actions to guard your money.
Someone with boundaries isn’t consequently an asshole.
Lottery players tend to have a specific personality type. Desperate or gambling addicts or generally bad with money. Regardless, winning a lottery is not a sustaining income plan. It’s fast easy money and the most responsible thing to do with it is pay off debts or other necessities. Not giving your second cousin that you haven’t seen the the family reunion 10 years ago a handout to get their business going isn’t really an asshole move.
People who seemingly became asshole when they got rich were probably just asshole all along. You can sometimes see that attribute poking out from under someone’s mask when they aren’t careful. Ever native how if you criticize a rich person’s attitude, someone will chime in that they’re successful, so it’s ok?
There are some rich people who either luck into money and remain humble and quite. Those people are more or less invisible in the news cycle. If you find one or two in your area and you do charity work, you can sometimes approach them for donations.
There are also those who are successful small business owners and all of them that I’ve dealt with have some degree of asshole behavior, but that comes with the territory. If you let yourself be a pushover will bills or late deliveries, you lose. If they can compartmentalize, they’re fine, but I know some who can’t turn it off. You always feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them.
It would be an interesting experiment to hand out a lot of money to random people and then track how they behave statistically. Everyone has the potential to be an asshole, but it requires a lot of money to prove that one is not.
They already did that test with homeless people.
They spent the money on necessities.
Sadly true, also the reason that most c-levels are also assholes. They want power and money and being an asshole is damn near a requirement to do so.
lI can hardly count the number of times I was overseen, forgotten, passed, etc all because I was too friendly and non-intrusive. This meme is very true.
Yes, and unfortunately that’s why the world is the way it is. If empathy, creativity and humility were the values that would take us forward in society, everyone would be better off. But that’s a utopia that will never happen, I’m afraid. Because there will always be people who take advantage of the good nature of others to gain an advantage for themselves. That seems to be human nature - and will also be the downfall of humanity, I think. The tyranny of selfishness, built on the shoulders of good people and only made possible by their ruthless exploitation.
It will only never happen because people believe it will never happen
it’s an uphill battle, but it’s certainly one worth fighting for. never forget to be kind to others
Sorry, I don’t know how. My brain has so many memories of how being an asshole got me majorly fucked it’s super apparent I’m not good at it. Better just be really kind to people because I want to live in a world where we are kind to each other.
Even when you live like this, being kind to others, things tend to work out. You might feel like Ralph here only if you’re super competitive and are trying to get one up on everyone. I’ve managed to climb pretty high, despite my humble beginning. Lots got here before me. I still got here, tho. Also, since I didn’t shank anyone to do it I’m pretty unique and you’ll appreciate it more when I lift you up, too.
Well it is a shitpost, you shouldn’t take it 100% literal, but there’s a time and place to be an asshole. Most of the time it’s not, but when the time does come it can mean a whole lot.
Don’t get me wrong, you can check my post history, I know how to be an asshole.
It’s easier to be kind and let things go that don’t work out than it is to be an asshole with sociopathic tendencies that everyone remembers.
I can give you the exact opposite example.
Meassure your assholeness people.
Also the more often you’re an asshole, the less likely you’ll have friends available to help you get out of a sticky situation without having to resort to being an asshole. So instead of being as asshole, do people favours if they’re not assholes, and then maybe you’ll have someone you can call on who’ll come through for you too if the need arises.
Go full on New York City on them.
“Eat my ass, fuckwad!”
That’s just normal pleasantries exchanged in passing.
“And may you eat mine as well, my good dickhead!”
