• Blaze (he/him)@feddit.orgOP
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    3 days ago

    The t×nkie problem is also pretty bad.

    Aren’t you okay on sopuli.xyz? I now use lemmy.cafe as my main, they block ml, hexbear and grad

    • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
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      3 days ago

      I am! But I left 4-5 other instances before finally settling. Blahaj especially actually welcomed HB at one point because “trans solidarity”, which opened the door to mass harassment. …again. I was so absolutely disappointed because I was like “hey…don’t” and was basically told off.

      “Oh you can block them if you don’t like it! It’s up to the individual!” I’m sure that’s fine if you’re tough & completely mentally stable, but these people genuinely triggered my PTSD, which had not been a thing that had happened to me in years. It left me and my faith in this whole thing very very shaken.

      That aside, I think sopuli only has ML unblocked because it has such large tech communities.

      I really really really loved Beehaw, too, but after their talk about moving away from Lemmy, I scrambled to find another home.

      An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.

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        2 days ago

        An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.

        Indeed, I think I’ll just recommend lemmy.cafe as the safe recommendation from now on