• TheSlad@sh.itjust.works
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    7 hours ago

    Theres a lot to unpack here, but really OP made a mistake by asking to go hiking. Thats a terrible first date idea and also isnt inherently date-y. Likely he was just missreading her kindness as flirting, but if he had asked her to dinner or coffee brunch it would’ve made his intentions more clear to her.

    Not that it really matters because its fake and gay anyways.

    • QuizzaciousOtter@lemm.ee
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      5 hours ago

      Well, I read like a hundred times that going for a coffee is an incredibly boring date idea and doing some activity you both actually enjoy is much better.

      For what it’s worth, I hate the idea of a coffee / dinner date. Seems incredibly forced and like some kind of an interview. Though, I’m not dating and not interested in doing it, so I might be completely out of touch.

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        Coffee is boring if you are boring. That’s why some people are against it.

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        4 hours ago

        Coffee is a great first date if you met on a dating app. It’s a public location where you can both meet in person for the first time and chat but neither of you is forced to stay if things aren’t shaping up how you expected.

        But if you already know each other then yeah, coffee isn’t much of a date.

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          4 hours ago

          Yeah, I guess it does makes sense if you’re meeting with a complete stranger. Personally I would still prefer something like a walk in the park but this probably just comes down to personal preference.

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            3 hours ago

            My first dates generally start with coffee then turn into a walk in the park if things are going well. A coffee shop is also just a convient place to meet. But I guess that is also going to depend on city layout.

          • Entertainmeonly@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            It’s a safety thing too. Most girls want a public place for a first date. Especially from an app. A park is romantic and nice but offers little in safety depending on the size, location and popularity of the area. So, grab a coffee first. Then suggest a walk around if you want to get a little closer. No need to stay at the coffee house but a park for a first meet can sounds like a frightening proposal for a single woman.

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              3 hours ago

              Ok, the park I’m imagining is definitely a safe, public space. I meant something like a city park, not a national park or something, maybe that wasn’t clear.

      • Moah@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        5 hours ago

        Even if you want to do something more interesting than coffee, find something better than “let’s go together to a remote area where no one will hear you scream or find your body” or even just “you’ll be stuck the whole afternoon with no way out if it turns out you don’t like me.” If you want to do something like that, I would recommend a climbing gym or something like that instead. It’s public and it’s easy to leave, two things you should make sure to include in a first date.

      • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        5 hours ago

        I agree, coffee dates suck. I usually do a nature walk for a 1st date because it’s free and gives us something to do.

      • general_kitten@sopuli.xyz
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        5 hours ago

        In my opinion dating is basically an interview. Though for a first date i would choose some light activity so if conversation doesn’t naturally come it wouldn’t be awkward.

    • Bosht@lemmy.world
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      5 hours ago

      Was that a =3 reference??? Christ I haven’t heard that in like a decade.