DeGeneres vowed to 'talk about it' in 'For Your Approval,' her farewell to stand-up. But she has nothing of value to say
  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net
    61·
    2 months ago

    Throughout For Your Approval, she offers excuses for what she never quite admits might’ve been chaos on her set, along with several disclosures that seem intended to evoke sympathy. Ellen has OCD and ADD, she tells us, along with the need to “heal childhood wounds” by earning the love of strangers. Also: “I was a very immature boss. Because I didn’t want to be a boss.”

    I’m beating a dead horse of how shitty Ellen is. But Im really sick of people using OCD/ADD as the reason they are insufferable.

    • MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net
      35·
      2 months ago

      OCD/AuDHD wreaks havoc on my executive function, and was left untreated for so long that my life is now falling apart.

      I’m insufferable for completely different reasons.

      • ensoniqthehedgehog@lemm.eeEnglish
        5·
        1 month ago

        Same. Despite plenty of signs, my parents refused to accept that I could even be slightly autistic (due to the stigma of it I guess?) and that my obvious ADHD needed any sort of treatment other than being pulled out of school, isolated at home, and not allowed to eat TONS of things.

        I now have to deal with pretty bad social anxiety and a lot of trouble having vocal conversations with people I am not extremely comfortable with. Sure, I would have likely struggled with these things anyway, but I’d probably be a lot more comfortable socializing if I had been able to learn and grow among my peers during my developmental years.

  • reddig33@lemmy.world
    434·
    2 months ago

    Wtf happened to this woman? She used to be such a brave trailblazer. Then she started going to football games with GW Bush.

  • lobut
    22·
    2 months ago

    I enjoyed this article. You don’t typically expect a comedy special to be a mea culpa and it seems that this is the case.

    I don’t think the feminist angle should protect you from being a shit head boss. More men probably get away with it but it’s still not a reason to be a bad boss? So it’s an odd defense. Also, pretty sure James Corden was called out too, so, you know …

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
    8·
    2 months ago

    Her show was funny for the landscape in which it existed. I haven’t liked her since she got the talk show, but I’m not the target market. I’ve disliked her ever since the picture with all the celebs at whatever award show or something. I really dislike her after reading what a shitty job she did of taking responsibility for her shortcomings in this article.

    Bye, Ellen. Don’t come back.

  • corsicanguppyEnglish
    62·
    2 months ago

    What’d I miss? I’ve worked for some bosses who were complete assholes, and I’ve worked for bosses where learning they had ADHD or OCD is absolutely no surprise. I’ve also worked for people-pleasers and pranksters.

    I’m gonna all but beg for downvotes, but i admit I haven’t been paying enough attention to spot more than just immature serially-hyper-focused “ha ha look at me that was fun for the 50th time wanna know what my favourite dinosaur is?” behaviour of someone with profound ADHD.

    Where was she a documented asshole beyond that? It was in the dreck I just really ignored?

    While I have your attention before the downvote, I’m glad that she seemed more relaxed in that special, that she brought Portia up - who is a stunner to this day, wow - for this maybe-last appearance like “this is me happy now” and how far a cry that was from her early days hiding her sexuality from herself, then family, then work. If she’s happy as she quits the biz, then I think that’s everyone.

    • Taleya@aussie.zone
      13·
      2 months ago

      Eh, she was an arsehole and a bully to her workers (and guests). People don’t like that. They also don’t like it when people go “I’m neurodivergent!” to excuse said arseholery. Especially other NDs. Drags all of us down

    • PoopDelivery@sh.itjust.works
      6·
      2 months ago

      Untreated ADHD often leads to major depression, anxiety, PTSD, and a lot of other shit. Not everyone with ADHD is hyper or talkative, sometimes it’s internalized and trust me, it fucking sucks. It can legitimately be disabling at times.

    • BioDriver@beehaw.orgEnglish
      3·
      1 month ago

      She would literally fire people on set for looking at or talking to her. She would yell and berate people to the point that they would burst into tears and then laugh about it. She wasn’t just a horrible boss - she made it extremely clear that she’s a shitty person

  • heavyboots@lemmy.mlEnglish
    33·
    1 month ago

    I laughed out loud multiple times watching this “unfunny” comedy special? It really felt like the Times had a hell of an axe to grind with her.

    Mind you, I’ve never watched the Ellen Show even once in my life, so pretty much her standup is the only interaction I’ve ever had with her.