• southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
    561·
    2 months ago

    I didn’t make my kid. Adopted.

    But it’s the same thing, the same feeling.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a grumpy asshole, but I try harder to be decent. I try to be the dad that the kid deserves, and that includes setting an example by being better than I used to be.

    It’s some powerful shit, when you let yourself feel it.

  • blandfordforever@lemm.ee
    363·
    2 months ago

    That’s that evolutionary programming kicking in, convincing you to slave away with the goal of increasing the survival rate of your offspring.

    I’m not saying it’s good or bad. I’m just saying that your’e a machine and this affects your program:

    If(havebaby=true){parentalmotivation++}

  • MystikIncarnateEnglish
    10·
    2 months ago

    Very recently, I was chatting with a coworker who is a dad, and he said, “I love my kids, but don’t do it”

    Bit of a different vibe from that guy.

    • fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      2 months ago

      It’s a commitment. If you are not willing to have your life completely changed then yeah, you better not do it. It’s not a path for selfish people. There is not a lot of “me time”, as a parent.

      • MystikIncarnateEnglish
        1·
        2 months ago

        IDK that I’d be so quick to refer to people who don’t have kids as selfish… Certainly there are selfish people that shouldn’t have kids for that reason, but not all people who are willingly childless, are selfish.

        • fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
          1·
          2 months ago

          Not saying it that way. I’m saying if you need / prefer to focus on self, well, being in a couple may already be hard, and being a parent is gonna be an exercise in frustration. It’s okay to not want to devote your life to others.

          • MystikIncarnateEnglish
            2·
            2 months ago

            That’s fair. Take my comment more as a clarification of what you were saying.

            Being single and childless or being in a relationship and childless, isn’t in and of itself a problem with someone being selfish.

            Personally, I choose not to have children because gestures at everything… I don’t even want to be here, why would I forcibly make someone else live with gestures at everything again all this… The world is crazy. I don’t want to subject my offspring to what’s happening. I’d rather that they don’t exist than to do that to someone who I love more than anything.

            They don’t and will never exist, and I love them enough to not subject them to the insanity that is our society.

            Unless we get to star trek levels of prosperity before I’m beyond the age where I am able to create offspring, then I don’t see me having any. I’m not even talking about space ships, and FTL/warp speed, I’m taking about the principles under which they lived in the federation. Unified, peaceful, and free.

            Realistically, that won’t happen in my lifetime, so I guess I’ll never procreate.

            And a note before I go. While I don’t want to be here, I’m trying to be a net positive for the world while I’m here. I’m not depressed nor suicidal, I have no inclinations to harm myself or others. I’m here, I’ve dealt with that fact, I’m making the best of it. I just got engaged, and I’m looking forward to growing old with my partner, and peacing out after another 30-40 (maybe more?) years on this planet, hopefully making everything I touch just a little better as I go for those that will survive after me. My entire life is in the service of others… and I’m not religious. Go figure.

  • stebo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    101·
    2 months ago

    bcs this is 4chan I assumed they had a crush on her for 16 years and actually never talked to her

  • Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
    2·
    2 months ago

    It says a lot about the world that only certain people who can afford certain experiences can enjoy it and the rest are bitter.

    Having said that, I’m proud of anon and his likely faked story and son.