“I call a cab 'cause a cab will come quicker.” - Flavor Flav
Fun fact. I slashed my wrist with a broken bottle at a party once. Had someone call an ambulance. They said nothing major hit. Wrapped me up. Asked if I wanted a ride.
I said no cause it’s dumb money. Then I asked how to pay them. They said they only charge for rides. It blew my mind. My potentially life saving call didn’t cost me anything. (Its over $1,000 for an ambulance ride).
I told them I’m good now and got a ride to the ER. Expensive stitches after waiting for hours. I should’ve taken off the bandage and walked in dripping blood.
It blows my mind that calling an ambulance could ever cost money.
When you need an ambulance, seconds could mean the difference between life and death.
Putting a decision in front of it that could financially ruin you or the person you’re helping is absolutely bonkers.Yep. I was 20 years old nearly living check to check. A medical bill of $1,000+ on top of the hundreds for the ER would’ve stung bad.
I live in Quebec. Our ambulances cost money too. Although they’re less expensive than American ones (about 200 CAD).
And yeah, literally everyone thinks that’s stupid.
“I SAVED YOUR LIFE !”
“You ruined my death”
Incredible
is that a quote from somewhere cause i swear it sounds familiar
Incredibles
Look at mr worldwide here speaking French
Sacre bleu, incroyable!
And Incredaboy!
It’s an incredible movie
First responder here. The DNR doesn’t mean a damn thing until it is literally in your hands. Until that time you respond as though there is no DNR. If you’re wrong and they did have one but just didn’t have it on hand then you accidentally save someones life, you’re still legally in the clear, and I guess they can just die sometime later. But if the DNR turns out not to be real/legitimate and you didn’t act just because you were told there was one then you just killed someone and you’re completly fucked.
If you have a family member that has a DNR then be damn sure everyone knows where that thing is because unless you have it physically there when they are dieing then it doesn’t mean anything.
Of course in places like nursing homes there is a different procedure. They know who has one on file and they will usually tell dispatch about it before the ambulance is even sent. But if it happens just in your home or someplace then the ambulance crew can’t just take your word for it; they need the document in hand.
The DNR doesn’t mean a damn thing until it is literally in your hands.
How does the DNR get into the first responder’s hand in practice? Do you get an emergency call and drive there as fast as you can through red lights with your siren on only to be greeted by a relative that made the call handing you the DNR document?
But if the DNR turns out not to be real/legitimate
Are you responsible for validating its legitimacy while in the field, when every second counts?
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Sometimes, yes, many times a family member may call EMS to hand them the DNR, this ensures proper procedures are followed when dealing with the body, less mess, and a quicker certification of death. It may also be important in situations where the person is influencial or rich and ensures you cannot be accused of foul play.
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No, DNRs have certain things that make them official, signatures and notarized markings. Usually one person will begin life saving measures while the ither verifies the DNR. EMS never work alone.
EMS is such a worthy occupation. I admire EMS workers so much.
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For the first question. The responders will act exactly as if there is no DNR until you give it to them. Yes, that sometimes means wasted effort but it’s better than the alternative.
For your second question, by legitimate I basically just mean that it’s not written in crayon on a piece of notebook paper or something. Generally speaking the forms are pretty standard and issued by the healthcare provider. Generally you’re just looking for a physicians signature and a date. Some states also allow DNR medical jewelry. The exact specifics on the DNR do vary a lot based on state and county so the local responders will know what they need for their area. As far as every second counting goes, that’s why you have a whole ambulance crew.
You’ve usually planned out the end with your partner/family/caretaker if you have a DNR and they would more than likely be ready to produce your DNR (and medical history) when you need to call an ambulance or go to a hospital for any reason.
What if I just avoid people who look like they’re dying?
Not illegal, good samaritan laws protect you either way. However, there is a “duty to rescue” if:
1: You created the hazard that lead the person into danger, you must provide rescue.
2: A special relationship exists. Spouses must rescue each other, parents must rescue children, employers must rescue employees, property owners to invitees but not trespassers.
3: In some jurisdictions you have a duty to notify, which is usually calling the police, but you do not have to take any measures to help them beyond that. Only 10 states require this and is never actually enforced.
So if your spouse is drowning and you’re not a good swimmer you have to go die with them or you get in trouble? Obviously if there is a flotation device you’d use that but what if there isn’t like in a river or something?
I realize that other comments have already explained the law better than I could. I still wanted to say that fortunately, jumping in to drown alongside them doesn’t legally count as “helping,” so there is no expectations for anyone to do so.
I was hinting at the fact that drowning people will drown you to live themselves lol
Oh yes, I was cheekily agreeing with that. It’s always good to spread the information that the end result of a person who isn’t specifically trained in rescue swimming attempting to swim out and rescue a drowning person is almost always just the two drowning together, even if the would-be rescuer is an otherwise strong swimmer.
Note: I am not a lawyer.
You’re legally required to help, not risk your own life while doing so. If somebody is drowning you need to call the emergency services and if there is a rescue buoy close by you can throw that as well and try to pull them to shore that way.
I am not a lawyer, but I think in the majority of cases you should be covered by calling the emergency services.
As a side note: unless you’re a lifeguard or have had proper training, jumping in to save somebody drowning is dangerous. A person drowning will try to hold on to anything to stay afloat and will likely try to push you under trying to stay above water.
Yeah the holding other people down for one breath of air is what I am talking about, I was being a tad silly with my question but I appreciate your answer
You have to take “reasonable, actionable steps to rescue another in a hazardous or dangerous situation.” This may mean just calling the police, or in a case like drowning, throwing a life preserver and flaging down a lifeguard.
I’d assume the law has words along the lines of “as much as reasonably possible”, if there’s nothing you can do besides watch, well, that’s all you can do.
If employers must rescue employees, shouldn’t Amazon be in more trouble when they just leave corpses hanging around for days on end?
Yes, should be
Does it count if tattooed on their chest?
No, courts have ruled the tattoo could mean anything, and you need to provide the documentation for it to count. The tattoo could lead to them looking for a DNR though.
“Ask about my DNR” would be a funny tattoo.
Depends on the state and county. I’m sure some county somewhere allows that. Medical jewelry is also allowed for a DNR in some states.
But why can’t Anon just legally kill his neighbor?
i asked my first aid instructor about DNR and he responded with a very firm “you didn’t see it”.
Only medical professionals are bound by a DNR for a good reason.
And we are only bound by a DNR IF we have the actual document in hand. Or as EMS, if CPR has already been started when we arrive, we are automatically obligated to continue. If it ain’t written down, it never happened. Nursing homes are supposed to provide the documents any time we transport such a patient as part of their medical history papers. And yes, we treat and transport a lot of such patients with a DNR that needs to go to a hospital for some reason.
Worst case scenario, entering a home with family gathered and grandma has a heart attack. And half the family wants me to start CPR and the other half tries to tell me grandma to let grandma go. I will ask them if they have the documents and they don’t answer me because they are too busy fighting each other to respond to me. And my poor driver is trying to literally breakup a fight while I’m doing CPR.
Source: A very old and happily retired medic
So did you see the things that guy on YouTube sees? https://youtube.com/shorts/PokQVSrPcR8
Is it FDC? I bet it’s FDC
Edit: It is FDC
Yes and worse. He only talks about the funny stuff. Though what might be funny to a table of EMS people, probably would make you ill to hear.
Never eat a meal with a table full of emergency medical personnel.
yeah that makes perfect sense.
non-medical professionals should not care about DNR orders, bracelets, whatevers. Because what if it’s fake and you can’t tell the difference from a real one? You could, unknowingly, help someone commit a murder, or let a temporarily unstable person die, sure you’d be innocent, but guilt and trauma doesn’t care about your innocence
And even then, it’s not a piece of paper that you can just accept like a death coupon. It has to be signed and not contentious, and things need to line up very correctly.
My Dad had a DNR in his legal name, but the nursing staff and his room all used the common shortening of that name. Because the names didn’t line up when things went bad and there was no one with authority to clarify they, correctly, operated under the assumption that they did not have an order.At one point EMS providers couldn’t even make the call, it could only be done by the medical facility. I’m pretty sure that’s no longer the case anywhere in the US though.
I was gonna call this cap because CPR that long after collapse has infinitesimally small odds, but I looked it up and turns out I’m wrong. CPR anyone you see down!
My understanding was always that CPR isn’t meant to revive someone its meant to keep them viable for revival by people with better training/equipment.
If you’re really good at CPR they often regain consciousness while you are doing chest compressions and complain. Every time you pause, they die again
This is fucking hilarious
Its something alright.
How has this not been on tv yet? Lucifer would a done it if they knew it existed.
The way I heard it if they can’t fight you off they still need CPR, so keep at it no matter what they say.
That ain’t “being really good” - That’s being stupidly lucky. I spent 20 years in the back of the bus, and I never had a revival on scene or in the rig. Nor did I ever meet anyone who ever made such a claim.
Quite often patients that are brought in with CPR in progress are called dead by the ER Doctor after another 20 or 30 minutes of effort or they do get a patient back and keep them going for another few days or a week or so. Only for the patient to finally die in hospital.
But, every so often someone surprises the hell out of us and actually survives and goes on to live for years. This is why we try as hard and as best we can to keep you alive. Because there is always a chance.
I’m just echoing the somewhat traumatising experience of a friend that works in a hospital. I’m gonna assume it’s highly dependent on the nature of the injury requiring resus, both probability of survival and chance of waking up during CPR
Yeah, basically you’re trying to force some circulation through the brain by manually pumping the heart - which is as much about clearing the waste buildup out of the brain as it is getting fresh oxygen to the brain, and also about preventing clots (which will later cause aneurysms when the blood starts flowing normally). Everything else is essentially expendable/repairable/replaceable.
Even the breathing part isn’t very important, though the initial check to make sure the airway is clear is very important. If you’re doing the chest compressions right, you’ll force some airflow through the lungs anyway. The important part is getting the blood to circulate. Having stagnant blood sitting in the brain is really bad.
The current CPR procedure recommends 100-120 chest compressions of at least 2" (5cm) per minute. You are going to hurt them. You may crack their ribs. You need to compress the heart through their ribs and muscle and other tissue that’s in the way. Even if you’re in good physical shape, it is an exhausting thing to do. It’s definitely something worth learning to do correctly - take a class if you can! You can absolutely save someone’s life if their heart stops.
The class with a mannequin is really important to experience firsthand. Like to see that you should really start calling the emergency services and put them on speaker after you’ve assessed the situation and before you start CPR. And to know how hard you have to do it. It doesn’t take incredible skill, the modern mannequins will rate your performance, as long as you go fast enough and don’t stop it’s good. I was in shape at the time and I found it easy enough if you use your weight to help, I don’t think I could keep going hard for more than five minutes though.
That’s why they recommended doing it in a group. You start getting tired, slowing down, not pushing down 5cm, etc so you hand off to someone else. It’s a workout.
Now try doing CPR in the back of an amber-lamps bouncing down a gravel road at insane speeds while standing up and you have 50 miles, (80 Kms for those in Rio Linda) to the nearest hospital. Been there, done that, got way more tee-shirts than I ever wanted. Thank god for automatic CPR machines so I didn’t need to manually do CPR for 40 minutes straight anymore.
I did CPR training a while back, including AED use. It was fun - and sobering. The takeaway was basically: the odds of your victim surviving this is low, but any chance is better than no chance. They also drilled into us that good CPR will likely crack some ribs. Which is again preferable to, you know, being dead.
They also had us training on two mannequins. First one was the ‘nice’ dummy that’s easy to compress and teaches good form. Then they switched it out for a ‘lifelike’ dummy, which supposedly simulates the actual strength needed for good CPR. And man, that’s a workout for sure. After performing five minutes of solo CPR on that bad boy, I was about ready to need that AED myself. I’m quite a chunky individual, and even leveraging my body weight that took a bit of strength. We had a petite girl in our class who couldn’t manage it.
Properly performed CPR doesn’t crack ribs. If you cracked a rib, you fucked it up and did it too hard. That’s better than letting them die, but don’t go cracking ribs on purpose.
You’re right, but it’s hard to be careful and fast. And for me personally, I’m a fairly big guy so it’s easy to hurt someone doing this.
They also talk about snow. The cold slows down bodily functions.
Nobody is dead until they are warm and dead.Only a fifth of people survive a heart attack?!
Survival rates of a heart attack are upwards of 90% from what I can find online. There are certain types where the survival rate for that type alone is much lower though.
Shit. Which thing on the Internet we’ve read, do we believe?
NTA, if he wanted to die he should’ve done it behind closed doors
In cancer world this is why patients are instructed to print in large letters “AMBULANCE” on an envelope pasted to their fridge. It informs anyone coming to their house to not resuscitate . So likewise it Should be on neighbour to inform everyone of his DNR before calling a lawyer or laying any blame. You have no ability to see his chart as a bystander. He should own that. Nothing was stopping him from going around and informing his neighbours to not try to resuscitate if he expected any less. And that is on him.
In cancer world
Worst amusement park ever
Could have been worse. He could have been from a culture in which saving someone’s life means that you become responsible for them for the rest of their life. Then you’d have had to rig up some kind of situation in which he saves your life so you become even.
Do you have a real life example of a currently existing culture with such a practice?
Because I feel like you’ve seen a few too many movies.
Couldn’t find anything on “blood debt” or “life debt”, with the closest being a reddit article that references a Kung-Fu movie in 70s that popularises the idea
I vaguely recall having heard that before of somewhere out in eastern Asia, but I can’t recall where at. I’d be curious to see what that’s about.
googles
Rating: unproven
Yes, and the reasoning behind why it’s considered such is also detailed in the link itself. I figured I’d leave that link as a way for folks to read into it and learn where the claim originated from.
That’s not a “life-debt” as much as it’s just regular insurance debt.
The same logic would apply in western countries, but the practice we have make it less likely you’d get away with murder so actually driving over someone to kill them on purpose after an accidental crash isn’t quite as common as in China.
Nothing to do with “saved your life so now I’m now responsible for it”.
Which is exactly what I wanted to clear up with the Snopes link.
Fair enough
Leave a crate of vodka on his porch
I mean, it sounds like that’s exactly what the miserable bastard wants.
Eh it could be arranged anyway
I don’t really understand DNR. Why not get medically assisted suicide? Or heck, just end your own life?
Seems better than dying a painful, gradual death as your organs shut down from cancer or something.
DNR is more for unexpected death. Planned death, such as suicide (whether medically assisted or not), still requires a DNR.
The only way a DNR is applicable is if the party who is performing the life saving is aware of the order (generally medical professionals). Unless you have it tattooed on you or something, how could a random person know not to try to save your life.
If the green text in the OP is true, I have no idea what their lawyer was thinking. There’s no way to win that argument.
By the time paramedics arrived, the patient was alive by way of this passerby resuscitating them already. Even if the paramedics were aware of the DNR, it no longer applies because the patient is alive. So reasonable measures to keep them alive are appropriate. As long as they don’t flatline again, the paramedics are in the clear.
I’m any case, DNR has a place. Including for those that don’t want to die, but understand the aftermath of CPR is pretty unpleasant (broken ribs, for a start). So rather than suffer through the recovery from CPR, they have a DNR, so that if they go, that’s it.
They’re not in pain, nor seeking death, they just don’t want to suffer through the trauma and recovery of CPR and related procedures.
This is very separate from palliative care, though most of the time they overlap. Palliative care is basically comfort care for people near death. Often palliative patients have a DNR, but not always.
Additionally, on the subject of palliative care, anyone who is not of sound mind, cannot consent to medically assisted suicide, and nobody can consent for them. So in any case where there is a mental aspect, such as dimentia, Alzheimer’s, etc, such procedures are impossible. Even a power of attorney cannot consent on their behalf, one of few things that a POA cannot do on the patients behalf.
Beyond that, medically assisted suicide isn’t legal everywhere.
We don’t know where the poster is.
Palliative care, DNR, and medically assisted suicide are all parts of the equation, all with different purposes, frequently related, and often are administered together.
Source: my father died in January of 2022. He long started his desire to not become a burden like his mother was (Alzheimer’s). His most frequent statement on this was that if he were to go “that way” to simply “hand him a gun and he would take care of the rest”. By the time my brother and I realized he had “gone that way”, he was too far gone to be able to do that, and too far gone to pass the required psychiatric exam to be eligible for medical assistance in the matter. He had to be put in a care home and we quickly got him a DNR. He was in there for… I think 5+ years? Before passing away “naturally”. For us, he died a long time prior to his body giving out, and we would visit his corpse in the nursing home from time to time.
My condolences for your father. That sounds like a lot of years to live through a really bad situation for everyone involved. :(
Thanks for the extra info on DNR. I think I understand now.
My pleasure. My dad had his flaws, but he tried to do right whenever he could.
He survived polio, and after he was told by doctors that he would be lucky to walk again, he not only was walking right up until he was admitted into the nursing home (and for nearly a year after too), but he also was able to drive, both a car and a motorcycle, and he learned to fly a plane, stuff that the doctors would have said would be impossible for him.
He was a teacher in a local highschool and taught computers in the 80s and 90s, into the 2000s, when he retired from teaching. Because of this, we always had a computer at home, which is how I learned, and I work in IT support now, in no small part because there was always a computer at home. Even back in the days of DOS…
Sounds like a really impressive dad. :)
im pretty sure tattoos arent legally binding either
No, but it would arguably make someone aware that a DNR exists. Not sure it would hold up in court, but it’s more than nothing.
it will not hold up in court.
you have no idea whether it is a joke, and the persons life is in your hands
I would agree with that.
Life insurance might not pay out for suicides. If he has family or anyone else mentioned in his policy he may not want to jeopardise that. No idea if that applies to OP’s neighbour, but it’s one potential reason.
Man, money matters further complicating literal life-and-death situations. I hate this.
Because you aren’t allowed medically assisted suicide. The democratic government mandates a rough and tough death for you, because a merciful death is too awful for a fucking voter to think any more on than " Oh no, no death please. I don’t want to talk about this anymore, go away or I call the police."
I guess I shouldn’t be surprised it isn’t a thing in some countries but … Come on. :(
My country does not have medically assisted suicide.
Aw, that’s sad. :(
I have done CPR on people before, and it is astonishingly brutal. To do it correctly, you have to cave their sternum in to be able to apply enough pressure to the heart to actually move blood around. For “Out of Hospital Cardiac Arrest” patients that receive bystander CPR, the survival to discharge is around 10%, give or take. The most common outcome of CPR (if it is successful and you get a pulse back) is days to weeks of dying slowly and painfully in the ICU. The older someone is, or the more health problems they have, the much lower the chance of recovery is.
CPR is absolutely reasonable for a younger person that stands a good chance of walking out of the hospital at the end of it, but 90 pound 90-year-old is extremely unlikely to survive in a meaningful way. It is very reasonable to request to not be put through that massive amount of suffering for a very low chance of any meaningful benefit.
There’s also degrees of DNR. There’s separate options for CPR, intubation, supportive care, active treatment, palliative care, etc. It’s a lot more nuanced than CPR yes/no in most situations.
Rule of acquisition 285: No good deed ever goes unpunished.
If living is such a big problem for you then why don’t you just die?
Never help anyone ever.
thats what they want us to think
Sure, Jan.
