• 𝕾𝖕𝖎𝖈𝖞 𝕿𝖚𝖓𝖆@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I will be watching a three hour video essay, get distracted, read posts on Lemmy, then go back to my video 15 minutes later. I realize I have no idea what was said in the last 15 minutes so I have to back up to the last point I definitely know I wasn’t distracted. It will take me ten hours to watch that video.

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      This is why I don’t do podcasts in the background, I miss stuff and the whole thing becomes a confusing distraction.

      What seems to work for me is something I have seen/heard a bunch of times in the background (Futurama, electronic music) which scratches that mind wandering itch without it dragging me away from what I want to be doing.

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        I have two types of podcasts: those I listen to when doing work that is pretty mindless so I can focus on the podcast, and those that are entertaining but not important enough that it matters if I miss something while reading directions or thinking through next steps on my project, etc.

        Come to think of it, I have one other category, actually, which are podcasts that are interesting but get a big backlog because I’m not that excited about them. I use those to fall asleep.

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          3 months ago

          For me it’s similar, but podcasts for housework and cleaning, music for working, silence for drawing/problem solving.

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        I’ve probably listened to the entire MCU, in order, fifteen times over the past two years. I can ignore it and happily work or game, while it calms the tiny part of my brain that’s registering it - and then I’ll notice an especially good scene is coming up, so I pause whatever’s currently on top and switch to the video for a scene or two… then back to work/play.

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      4 months ago

      It took me four days to get through Ash (2019)

      Amazing movie

      I stayed up until 4AM each day

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      3 months ago

      I’ve really gotten into those police interrogation videos on YouTube. The ones that are like 3 hours of raw footage of the interrogation. You can miss large chunks because it’s such a long process and just tune in when they run out of lies and confess.

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      4 months ago

      Before i was got on meds, i constantly had music playing in my head along with all the other thoughts that were trying to be heard.

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        Okay get this - when I finally got on meds for the nth (and hopefully last) time, the voices in my head immediately changed from an incoherent chorus of self-hatred to “why is this song playing in my head?” and “It’s kind of a bop, though.”

        The relief was incredible, if also a little weird.

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          Lol ive had that kind of experience as well. I got lucky and first med i tried was really effective. I’m now able to just stop thinking for a while. All the voices are quiet and no music plays.

          I just got diagnosed last year and ive had ADHD all my life without knowing it so super weird to just have a quiet head. I get what you mean, its such a drastic change, but a good one.

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        3 months ago

        I always say that my brain is a jukebox that never, EVER turns off. There is always music and it never stops.

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    Oh my, no. This is like a list of the worst things for me.

    I can’t concentrate on something if they’re are voices in the background, my brain forces me to focus on the voices, I can’t tune them out to focus on my main task.

    So when I’m working, music helps me focus a little, but it MUST not have vocals. No-Vocals Vaporwave/Synthwave is my jam.

    I could never watch two films at the same time, or have a podcast on while I’m trying to watch a film, etc, I hate distractions and background noises while I’m trying to focus on a film.

    If I tried to watch two films at once… my brain would just be overwhelmed and I’d be able to watch neither.

    I also hate noise in general and cherish blissful silence, so while I do run a fan when it gets very hot, I do my best to avoid it.

    Quiet silence is best, the more things like noise assault my senses the more I feel oppressed in my own brain.

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      This. I got the “physically unable to multitask” ADHD instead of the “needs multiple sources of stimulation” ADHD.

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        4 months ago

        I need exactly the right amount of stimulation or nothing is getting done. It is extremely variable.

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        I find loud, fast/rhythmic music works best for me. Anything with a d-beat is generally solid, so metal (osdm, trad/speed, thrash, black) and punk (hardcore, crust) make up a chunk of my focus music, definitely not in the multiple sources category either, more of the “drown out everything else so I can only think of one thing” sort.

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        4 months ago

        Same but I work from home with two elementary school aged kids during summer break, so I just suffer.

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        Haha yes it’s a strong possibility that I have both, going off what I’ve learned these past few years of research and community involvement!

        It’s going to be a looong time before I can get checked for autism though as I’m poor, so for now I just have to wait and wonder :-)

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      Oh my gosh, same. If I’m trying to concentrate or focus on something there can be no words in music or better yet no music. The only exception to that is a task that is just movement and a playlist with songs I know all the words to. Then I’ll sing while I work. I like classical for the no words, even opera is ok because I don’t know what they are saying. I used to set my alarm in the morning to the French CBC. I don’t speak French so it was just melodic sounds instead of sounding like someone is yelling at me first thing.

      I also don’t like watching movies/tv/youtube. I always feel like there’s something else I should be doing. I will watch a movie, but it takes a bit for me to settle and get my brain to realize that that’s what I’m doing. It feels so sedentary. Though I can game for hours haha. I’m doing something! There’s the added bonus that tv is like coffee for me, makes my brain WIRED, then I can’t sleep. Books for the win!

      My hearing is quite bad now so that also adds to the feeling of a dull roar of confusion. Yay getting old.

      *Edit to say hook me up with the synthwave playlists! Love that sound.

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            I often spend my time on Lemmy/Reddit feeling and acting bitter and dumb, I’m so angry at myself for this illness and how I’ve ruined my own life because of it, and I’m angry at the world for all the cruel people and systems causing us to suffer, holding us down, dooming us,

            and I do want to be better, kinder, I just don’t have any hope and nowhere to put all this anger and hopelessness and misery, and I can’t afford ADHD treatment so…yeah. I’m not proud of my little vice/outlet, I suppose.

            Anyway my point is, you’ve been lovely to talk to, thank you for reminding me that some people are genuinely lovely. I most certainly don’t deserve it, haha.

            Anyway, from here in Manchester England, have a grand day 👋

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              Hey! Sorry I didn’t respond sooner, many guests arrived. Awesome playlist! So far every track has been gold. The teenagers love it lol. Many thanks.

              Number one, don’t feel guilty about spending time here. You can make it what you want and be a force of good and change or, not. We all need a bit of escape sometimes and I know I am very susceptible to doom scrolling to avoid work/sleep/life in general. But I try to keep my feed as positive as I can while still being informed of what’s going on in the world. That’s a tough line sometimes 🙄. I get not having any hope, it’s just hard, so hard, right now. So much change and uncertainty in the air and no outlet for the stress. Go walk, get outside, exercise is a huge part of adhd management.

              I don’t know your situation and how you’ve ruined your life, but I hope you have someone to talk to. Maybe it’s not as bad as your spinning mind is making it? I get into a spiral real easy, so I know how that can go! Have you been diagnosed with adhd? I took a quick look to see if there are any assistance programs for medication, didn’t find anything right away but I’d look into that. Here in BC there is a program that helps pay for it. I was only diagnosed last September in my mid forty’s and medication has saved my life. I have a brain again! Tbh, I almost didn’t make it, my daughter kept me going, I couldn’t bear to never see her again. It has been a long journey to get to this place and now I can see the future again with joy. It’s worth exploring all the avenues to keep in that direction. I unfortunately don’t know the uk health system so can’t offer too much advice. Only that nowadays you have to be your own advocate.

              The main thing I want to say is don’t beat yourself up. You’re struggling and most definitely deserve some grace and care, shit is hard right now. One step at a time. Message me if you need a chat or a pep talk! Cheers from the Gulf Islands of BC and have a kick ass day!

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      3 months ago

      This is me when I’m medicated - no distracting lights or sounds, just ambient music, something to fidgit with, and my task.

      Unmedicated, and I’m like the meme, trying to shove as many things into my head as possible.

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    4 months ago

    When the power goes out and that fan stops, it’s the quietest thing you’ve ever imagined. It shouldn’t even be possible. I hate it.

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    The fan thing really hit me. Ceiling fan, 7 years, only stopped it to dust…when the power goes out

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      I’m sorry about the fan hitting you, you really have to make sure those things are mounted properly.

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    4 months ago

    Where are the fidget toys, sound of TV in another room, and 6 open beverages scattered about? How is this person staying so focused despite being so dehydrated!?

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    I have a big fan in my room and when I get on calls with friends, they ask if I’m in the factory. Apparently the fan sounds like heavy machinery in the distance. Got a new AC and it only adds to the factory ambience lol. My friends aren’t bothered by it, thankfully

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    This sub makes me think I have ADHD. Constant multitasking (audiobooks with whatever other brainless activity), or else so hyperfixated on a thing that I forget to eat, 4 empty cups of water at my desk, putting off responding to texts and then three days later realizing i never responded at all, forgetting about a problem I need to fix or errand I need to run until something reminds me of it.

    Just juggling a bunch of interests because, with a day job, there’s really no way to simply hold on to each one for very long.

    Oh and then smoking marijuana.

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      Are you me? Goddam, I am the very same to the last detail, I was even also wondering the same before reading the comment.

      Oh and I am high

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      This describes me well. My manager actually has to manage me but in a good way.

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    Wait, is a constantly running fan and ADHD thing? Because I have like 4 going right now… And rarely are they turned off.

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      For me it helps filter out noises from outside and lets my brain relax a bit. Not sure if that’s the ADHD or the hyper vigilace.

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        Same, I have a small fan that’s running almost 24/7 to act as a noise machine even when listening to music to which I listen constantly during the day. When I read comics/memes as well because I hate silence and hearing noises that are outside control. Lmao

        Also falling asleep to a small fan that’s on the other end of the room just hits different.

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          For me for some inexplicable reason i fall asleep best when i put a multiple hour analysis/essay video on the background about a topic i am not really invested in. This year i have watched dozens of long movie reviews yet i havent watched a single movie this year

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    I’ve gone through multiple fans already because of this…

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        Hey there may or may not be at least one ceiling fan in every room of my house but certainly never two in the same room… Ok maybe two in the same room.

        I actually don’t like the sound of fans but I like air circulation.

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      I have one fan that’s good enough that I just get it fixed whenever I start to smell that faint smell of burning plastic and see it start to struggle

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    My setup: dual screen, on one of them there’s YouTube always on with some booktuber or d&d campaign, private and work chats, on the other screen browser and terminals. The fan that’s sucking my vape fumes next to my desk has been running non stop for a couple of years. I sometimes turn it down to one, but it’s always on. Sometimes the browser/terminal combo gets replaced by Project Zomboid. I’m in this chair 10-18h per day, almost every day. I’m okay. Everything’s okay.

    • The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.worldOP
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      It may seem like chaos, but I don’t know how to explain that it’s relaxing.

      Before I had to move my “office” to a smaller room, I had a 4-monitor setup. Usually one for a game, one playing music channels on youtube, one for discord, and one for browsing reddit or something. I want to go back…

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      i have 3 monitors, one is my primary, one is my secondary content consumption monitor, and my third is my “static” screen, music player, system stats, discord, communications whatever.

      I have real workspaces since i use i3 so i can just hop between things per monitor as requested by me.

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    You forget the random book/magazine that’s read and the crosswords/doodling on paper.