• riodoro1@lemmy.world
    1631·
    9 months ago

    The father spends 10 hours a day on twitter and facebook looking at memes about liberals and millennials.

    • gmtom@lemmy.world
      26·
      9 months ago

      The father demanded his kids look unhappy for the photo as he hands his phone over to the waiter to take the pic.

  • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    115·
    9 months ago

    Honestly if you’re going out to eat with someone the phones should stay in pockets or bags

    If you’re making the effort to go out you should be there not on your phones

    • BruceTwarzen@kbin.social
      56·
      9 months ago

      It depends. I spend so much time with my beat friend that we don’t always have things to talk about. Sometimes we get coffee and just sit around and read or look at shit on our phones.

    • Anamana@feddit.de
      37·
      9 months ago

      Tbh I wouldn’t mind my kids looking at their phones… what does it matter if the games they play are analog or digital? I’m talking about the sitting in the restaurant kind of situation, where kids usually draw, read or do other stuff to entertain themselves.

      • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        25·
        9 months ago

        It’s not a matter of analog or digital games but a matter of going out to eat with people you care about and sharing that time with them

        • Anamana@feddit.de
          22·
          9 months ago

          Yeah but if your kids are young they see you every day, so… it’s different if you don’t see each other often.

          And my example was more meant for people who argue that they are fine with kids drawing when you’re out for food (which most younger kids do), but are annoyed when they use a phone to play.

          • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
            9·
            9 months ago

            Drawing can be more of group thing and can turn into conversation. Like asking them about what they’re drawing etc.

            Being on the phone is a more of a personal experience and has less opportunities for conversation and whatnot

            • Anamana@feddit.de
              121·
              9 months ago

              That’s a subjective thing I would say. Many people on here would agree that playing a game can also turn into a conversation. If my kids were to play Pokemon or Zelda for example, I could engage with it quite well. It just depends if you know the franchise/culture, making it easier to resonate with.

              And tbh I didn’t particularly enjoy my family looking at my drawings when I was younger, cause I didn’t wanna get a comment about it.

    • VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
      26·
      9 months ago

      I get the sentiment, but I have adhd and even with meds, it is sometimes a struggle to pay attention to someone, and I need something extra to do while holding a conversation at times. I need to have something to do with my hands so it’s a quiet phone or some clicking toy or pen, so take your pick.

      • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        16·
        9 months ago

        I’ve got ADHD as well (mines inattentive)

        I find doodling to be a good addition, especially if I’m having lunch with fellow doodlers

        Because not only does it keep my hands busy so I stop bouncing my legs but it can also feed into conversations as well (once has lunch with a fellow doodler who we sketched stuff behind each other, it was really fun)

    • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
      13·
      9 months ago

      I have autism and probably ADHD, eating without something else to stimulate me is absolute misery and if you tell me to put away my phone i’m going to start avoiding eating with you.

        • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
          9·
          9 months ago

          Not in my experience, my boomer dad doesn’t exactly have much in commin with me, he wants to talk about sports and i want to talk about technology.

          We just both pull out our phones and appreciate the presence of the other, you don’t have to talk to people to be social.

  • Hootz
    531·
    9 months ago

    Yea cause kids totally wanna have a conversation with their shitty father.

      • Hootz
        4·
        9 months ago

        In this case it’s because he’s clearly making them pose for the photo for internet credit

        • Kusimulkku@lemm.ee
          2·
          9 months ago

          I think it’s funny that the idea that they’re all having fun taking a silly photo is beyond the realm of possibility

    • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      1·
      9 months ago

      You’ve uncovered the catch 22 with this post. Kids want their phones because dad is shitty, if dad was engaging their kids and supported them emotionally, I’m sure you’d find far less detachment at the supper table.

    • FiveMacs
      12·
      9 months ago

      I never minded talking to my shit father…

      What a shitty mentality you have

      • Hootz
        21·
        9 months ago

        Guess you never got tired of Jew jokes and the constant shitting on anyone with a different skin colour.

        I love my dad but I can’t stand talking to him, everything is about race or immigrants.

  • FIST_FILLET@lemmy.ml
    26·
    9 months ago

    if someone keeps pulling out their phone while you’re eating with them, have you considered that you might just not be good company?

  • CileTheSane
    12·
    9 months ago

    “Joyful parents and dismayed kids…”

    1. “Hurray! Our children are unhappy! This is our goal as parents for some reason…”

    2. You know you’re the parents right? You don’t need to rely on the authority of others to tell your kids not to have their phones out at dinner? You can just do that yourself.

    3. So if my wife and I want to look up the answer to a question, or check our calendar, we get charged more? Good business strategy there…

    • yokonzo@lemmy.world
      9·
      9 months ago

      Boomer is someone born from 1946 to 1964, I would assume he’s closer to early gen x. Idk what his actual birth year is though

      Edit: I looked it up, September 22nd, 1963, yeah I guess you’re right

      • livus@kbin.social
        3·
        9 months ago

        @yokonzo Great edit, thanks for looking it up.

        I’m late GenX/Xennial (analog childhood digital late teens/adulthood) so to me he definitely talks, thinks, and dresses like someone from an older generation.

        When it first aired I was in my early 20s and he was already acting middle-aged.

  • Monkey With A Shell@lemmy.socdojo.com
    8·
    9 months ago

    I’ll give a pass to a quick check if it’s potentially something vital, but your latest post and the responses can wait for an hour. Focus on the moment at hand. Same gripe I have with people who sit there and film an entire concert rather than watch it.

    • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
      2·
      9 months ago

      this sentiment is just gonna make people not want to be around you though, maybe be more interesting to talk to if you want people to not pull out their phone?

      It’s perfectly fine to just spend time around others without interacting with them, it’s basically just parallel play for adults.

      And in many cases this sentiment is just straight up ableist, people with autism/ADHD commonly use their phone to keep themselves stimulated and happy, if you tell such a person to put away their phone you’re being a massive dick.

      • Monkey With A Shell@lemmy.socdojo.com
        2·
        9 months ago

        I may not actively tell them to put it away, but it’ll be noted for the future to determine if I feel like bothering to go with them.

        I have a young kid, if they have a friend over and put on some single player game while their friend just sits there I’m going to point out that it’s rude to have someone over and not include them in what you’re doing.