• shalafi@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Mom died of breast cancer. On my bd last month.

    She felt a lump, didn’t get it checked, figured it was a bit of fake titty that broke loose. Would have cost too much to get looked at.

    Found she had breast cancer. Her chemo stent got infected, wanted to wait until Monday to have it seen. Would have cost too much.

    Husband drove her 2-hours through 14° weather, snow and mountains and all, to the ER. Dead within 24 hours.

    But hey! Another dead conservative Boomer! Win?

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      10 months ago

      There’s absolutely no win there. I have a similar experience just before COVID, and the only saving grace was all his treatment - and the cost when he chose plan B - were both readily available and both cost-free.

      It’s unmitigated cruelty that you need to grieve while dealing with that healthcare system; and second-guess with the what-if thoughts as well.

      We tell the stories of the people we lost in COVID, and it helps to laugh together, and I hope you have a similar outlet to make room for some peace eventually.

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      10 months ago

      Human to human: I am so, so sorry for your loss and hope you are able to accept it and eventually still live your life to its fullest. I imagine that’s what she would have wanted. Nothing else I say should diminish that.

      [She] didn’t get it checked, figured it was a bit of fake titty that broke loose.

      What does this mean!? I don’t have breasts, so I have no personal experience but is it common for parts of them to break loose??

      Another dead conservative Boomer! Win?

      I’m sure you’re hurting, but this is a lot of projection. Did anyone actually say this (either online or in-person)!? If so, they are a bad person, no matter their political affiliation or beliefs and you should stay away from them…

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        10 months ago

        I’m assuming she had breast implants and she thought one of them ruptured. It happens and isn’t life threatening.

        I’m sorry that it wasn’t the case though.