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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/StatusDiver300 on 2024-01-24 11:17:22+00:00.
Throwaway because he knows my main
My (48f) husband (50m) and I have well paying but hectic jobs. Due to us being in higher positions, we are required a lot and taking holidays or vacations can be difficult. Last year we had matched our schedules and decided that we will be taking a short week off to enjoy a getaway in upcoming Valentine’s week as it would be our 15th year together. Everything was planned and a lot of money was spent.
However all of this was pushed to the side 3 days back when my daughter (17f from my previous marriage) told us that she was pregnant. She absolutely did not want to keep the baby and was scared for her future. We both sat her down and talked about this and decided that she would be going through with an abortion as it is in her best interest. I set up medical appointments and check ups.
Yesterday my husband pulled me to the side and asked when “this mess would be over” so we could go on our trip. I told him the trip is not even in question anymore because I need to be here for my daughter and support her. This is a very sensitive time for her and I want to help her in every way possible because what else would a parent do?
After this my husband started getting angry saying I cannot cancel this trip as it is already planned and booked in advance, that the abortion stuff will be done by a week anyway and we can drop her off with her grandma and then leave, that she’s old enough to take care of herself and should have been careful before “ruining everything”. I got angry and yelled at him saying how insensitive he was to even think of doing something like that. I said that if he cared about the money that much then I would pay him back my share. Then he called me an asshole and has been giving me the silent treatment ever since. I just wanted to put this here and have an outsider perspective. AITA for cancelling this vacation and trying to do the right thing?