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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ThrowRA_burnthehouse on 2024-01-24 08:36:37+00:00.

This month my husband (m45) and I(f32) live in a temporary appartment an hour from the city we otherwise live in. This is due to renovations in our home. This is stressing my husband out, and he also got a new job.

When we live at home I can leave for work later than him, so we don’t have to share the bathroom in the morning. But due to the longer comute we are up at the same time.

So my husband have been taking some medication for around half a year and it sometimes make him throw up in the morning. I’m doing my best not to block the bathroom. And if he knock i will leave the bathroom at once.

This morning i planed using the bathroom for 15 minutes to take a bath and do my makeup. It’s important to my husband that he can use the bathroom both before and after me. He would have had 15 minutes after me, and he went before.

When I had used the bathroom for 12 minutes he knocks. I leave at once, and grab my makeup and finish it in the living room. When he got out, he firmly asked me if we could make an arrangement that he get the last 10 minuts, before we leave. He said he did not think it was a huge ask. And he asked again if that would be okay. I was kind of pissed, because I felt like he did not consider that I already did that. And he was just angry because he had just thrown up.

Here i might be TA. I told him, he got the last 18 minutes. And that if he needed it earlier he could have just knocked. Then he became more annoyed and said if he could just have the last 10 minuts, it would be fine. I yelled at him, because he wasn’t listening and told him, I could not just give him the last 10 minutes before we leave because it don’t solve anything when he actually need 20 minutes. And that he can have as long as he fucking likes, i just need to know that it’s 20 minutes and not 10, so I can get up earlier.

He got really angry and cried and hit the wall. And told me he did not know why i would pick a fight with him in the morning when he wasn’t feeling well and he was stressed out by work and the temp appartment.

I could have just said okay, when he asked for the agreement for the last 10 minuts. I just feelt like he did not recognise that i already do all that I can to accommodate his needs. But it would certainly have been better if we did not fight. I don’t want to fight. I just want us to get along.

AITH?