• CaptainMcMonkey@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    There’s actually a really effective treatment for this condition! I mean, I don’t know what it is, but my mom figured it out. I’ll have to ask her about it.

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    8 months ago

    I mean while the phrasing is cringe I can understand it. I can not watch anything like Parcs and Rec or the Office because that kind of cringe humour where the characters emberass themselves physically hurts.

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      8 months ago

      Parks and rec and the American office don’t bother me but the original office makes me mortified with second hand embarrassment! But then that’s the point.

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      I’m like that with violent scenes, even though I know it’s fake and no one is getting hurt, I still get highly distressed. I wasn’t always like that, it got to that point more in my late 20s I think. I can play fighting games and such like just fine, although the bit in Witcher 3 when one of the women gets her face slammed on a table made me upset.

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      8 months ago

      OMG, for the longest time I thought I was the only one this happened to.

      Like, I don’t even want to go to the cinema anymore because there might be embarrassing scenes in the movie.

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      8 months ago

      That’s me with Psych. The show is beyond uncomfortable humor.

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      8 months ago

      that kind of cringe humour where the characters emberass themselves physically hurts

      But that’s what makes it so good

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      It’s fucking weird being a guy on tinder these days. Uhm yes, i’m a scorpio and therefore an empath, my character type is emjp, i need to vacuum twice a week because of my OCD 🤪 and i can’t sit still because of my ADHD.
      Bitch, what even are you?

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      8 months ago

      It’s because mental illness is so normalized, anything approaching normal and healthy is pathologized.

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        I’d trade my ADHD for being normal every day of the week. It’s even worse when people tell you about how they have ADHD because they are just annoying. And i sit there thinking: yeah i know what you mean, sometimes i don’t take my ADHD meds, because i have ADHD, and then i don’t answer text messages or pay bills for a few month, lol so random and fun.

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          Recognizing your illness and doing what you need to do, especially self-care, is healthy and admirable. Wishing you all the best.

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          8 months ago

          Hearing people whine is worse than having the condition?

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            8 months ago

            Hearing people dismiss your condition is pretty fucking frustrating. Idk about worse but it is highly irritating.

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              8 months ago

              Sure, acknowledged. But HAVING the condition in the first place has to be a greater issue, to me obviously.

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            No, they’re just saying it’s really annoying when people attribute an ordinary behavior to a mental disorder that you really struggle with.

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                He’s not saying hearing stuff like that is worse than having adhd, he’s saying that he feels even worse than normal when hearing that. Yes it’s phrased ambiguously, but you’re seemingly interpreting it as wrong as you can so you can feel superior

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                  Why are you assuming my motives? You have zero evidence based on the words.

                  I questioned the specific words they used. That’s all. Semantics matter.

                  Having a condition is always worse than hearing people chirp.

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                Yeah I think they just meant the turn of phrase to be: “worse still” or “and on top of that”.

                PS:

                I’m still not making sense probably.

                I think they meant it like

                Disorder is bad but the combination of disorder PLUS people chirping is even worse.

                E.g., it’s bad enough I smashed my foot dropping a brick on it but on top of that I stubbed my toe, too.

                Smashing my food is bad but even worse is [also] subbing my toe [on top of the already smashed foot]

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            8 months ago

            Thanks for asking. Not offensive to me personally just felt like it didn’t quite capture what what’s going on in my view.

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              Idk, when I was growing up, add/adhd, dyslexia, asd were unidentified, so I’m trying to learn because i feel I’ve two of the three conditions. I muddle through as best I can.

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                Same. Autism was only for the most extreme cases as far as I knew and ADHD wasn’t diagnosed often. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 40.

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    Being completely overwhelmed by empathy is legitimately a symptom of autism and other mental disorders. Most people may have empathy in various degrees; but they’re not debilitated by it like some neurodivergent people are.

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      Meanwhile my autistic ass is very empathetic but only in very specific cases and not in the ways people expect so I’ve been labeled lacking in empathy.

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        I’m a lot like that too. An article about a person I never knew dying can leave my heart aching days, weeks or even years later. I see a stranger crying and I start to cry too. And yet other things can leave me feeling nothing. My mum is in severe pain from terminal cancer and there are moments when it gets to me, but other times I feel almost nothing and I can’t tell if it’s because I’m just a heartless cow or I’m doing a really good job blocking it out (schizoid skills ftw).

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      8 months ago

      I think I have that a little bit, my chest tightens and it feels hard to breathe

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    Speaking from a therapist point of view…

    Empathy is the ability to understand someone else’s experience, to grasp something of what they’re thinking, feeling, etc.

    It doesn’t automatically imply that you care, you can respond to that understanding of someone else’s life with compassion, indifference or anything else.

    The colloquial usage of the word empathy to mean “consideration and caring” is problematic as is oftentimes an imagining of how the observer would feel if they were in the difficult situation, rather than the useful version of understanding how the other person feels within that difficult situation.

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    I actually hate when people just call it empathy, because feeling like this goes beyond that. Usually your mind shields you from feeling too much empathy. It helps you to cope with all of the awful shit around you, sometimes by just subconsciously ignoring it.

    If you constantly feel bad for every bad thing happening around you, it can be pretty debilitating. That homeless guy you walk past on the street? Sad. That bird that just killed itself by flying into a window? Sad. War and famine all over the world, caused by absolute wastes of oxygen in skinsuits? The worst.

    I personally know someone who will actually start to cry if they see someone sad on the subway or wherever.

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    everything is a disorder now. Like my eyes leaking water whenever someone makes me sad. I’m going to Google my symptoms and see how many days I have left to live.