This may sound dumb for some of you but I just can’t play online, or at least I can’t play anything with chat or a very social aspect. That’s why I only play tekken on my xbox since that doesn’t require socialisation but I have so many games and I feel half of them are worthless now that I finished the campaigns because I don’t play them online.
People said “use discord” but that shit is so counter intuitive to use isn’t like reddit, that just find a sub and connect. I don’t like that you need invitations and that every game is subs inside subs and diverse chats… is too much.
This is what worked for me. Pick the game or games YOU like and just… Go play them online. For me it’s Squad which kind of forces communication so that probably helped, but overall just find something you like. As you start playing online you’ll find some people who you don’t click on with. Don’t let them turn you off the entire thing. Just keep doing it. Eventually you’ll find people who share your hobby and you get on with well. Then comes Discord or Teamspeak what have you. After a while somebody suggests another game. Suddenly you have friends what.
TL;DR Don’t try to find friends to do what you like. Do what you like and make friends along the way.