Ugghh I feel like a complete bitch posting this but I can’t be alone in this. I know somebody who has completely subscribed to SNL and I can now see it in her posts. She has become very similar to her in how she posts what she is talking about the whole “woe is me” attitude. Anyways they just reposted today’s post saying how beautiful it was and all this shit and now I am having a hard time not being disgusted with this person and I really want to unfollow them. (I went to point out too I have NOTHING against people speaking out about their mental health issues and what not but when it starts to feel like they are only talking about it to justify their behaviours and almost get sympathy it becomes super cringy for me. One can talk about it but I don’t need to hear all about what your therapist, midwife, doctor said or see pictures of your crying about something)
Has anybody else had this? Sorry for the rant, I might just be PMS bitchy today
*So while I agree with your general stance about “white woman tears” syndrome and how it’s harmful. And that people need community around them to help teach them to be accountable, it kind of stops at that.
*I don’t think SNL is a good person. I don’t know if she’s bad 🤷🏼♀️, but I would say she is immoral and selfish. You’re right it does seem like no one in her circle holds her accountable but I also can’t say it’s their job. She’s almost 40, by this age you should have your own internal moral compass and capability to examine your actions. It also does seem like she doesn’t have any actual friendships in general. Which I bet comes down to her own doing. She most likely doesn’t want friends available to her, it seems she only wants to deal with ppl who will do something for her. The point is, we might think she is struggling (and she might be), but everyone has anxiety and gets sad. I think she is living the life she wanted, except she wishes she was slimmer with her real face resembling her filtered face.
*As far as for OP, it sucks when we see friends exhibiting toxic traits or just stuff we don’t agree with. If it’s a friend talk to her, if not, then unfollow and keep on keeping.
I don’t think SNL is a good person either. I think she’s too selfish to be good because good people don’t think about what’s in it for them and that’s all she thinks about. I remember when the oldest was taking her Nana K out for lunch and Sarah was waxing on about how lovely it was because it was sincere - not transactional. I don’t think she understands the concept. She’s even in a transactional relationship with the preschooler