• m-p{3}A
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    …are you trying to tell them what their gender should be?

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      This person is clearly in-denial, I’m not saying they should or shouldn’t be anything, it’s just obvious they aren’t entirely cis if you catch my drift.

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          Don’t compare cracking someone’s egg to conversion therapy, they are not the same, cracking people’s eggs saves lives, it frees them from denial and allows them to be happy as their authentic self. Conversion therapy tries to force people deeper into denial. This is such a rotten and transphobic argument.

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            You are not the arbiter of who is or is not trans. You are free to help someone come to the realization that they may be trans, but do not invalidate their identity in the process.

            Gender expression is a spectrum, and just because someone isn’t 100% gender conforming doesn’t automatically make them trans.

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              It is not invalidating their identity it is helping discover who they really are, helping them come out of the egg and break the denial that prevents them from being their most legitimate selves.

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                It is not invalidating their identity it is helping discover who they really are

                Literally indistinguishable from transphobe rhetoric.

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            right its so much different when its your opinion you are attempting to bend people to instead of one you disagree with

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              Conversion therapy is transphobia, transphobia isn’t an opinion, calling transphobia an opinion is like calling arsenic a flavor. I’m not trying to bend anyone to anything, I’m just pointing out that they’re dressing like a girl, and acting like a girl, put two and two together and you can see where that’s going. Is this really that hard for people to understand?

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                “You are what I say you are, not what you say you are” - thats what you’re going with, surprising take.

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            Not everyone is trans, homesicle. If I take a long hard look at my gender and decide that I’m happier as the man I was born than as a woman, that’s my business. Trying to force me into a female body would make me just as miserable as your male one was for you.

            Also I couldn’t help but notice that you seem to conflate anger as a concept with masculinity.

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        In another comment you clearly stated that femboys are not the same thing as trans.

        And now you want to push the transfem label onto a non-afab person just because they admit to wear gender-non-conforming clothes?

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          No I said we aren’t femboys, we are women. If someone claims to be a boy and dresses fem it’s clear they aren’t entirely cis, if they were such act would give them unbelievable gender dysphoria and discomfort.

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            You just singlehandedly invalidated the gender identity of every cis drag queen. That’s impressive.

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            This is a meme about trans women, please don’t conflate us with femboys.

            Sounds for me like:

            “femboys exist, but we are not the same”; not “femboys do not exist. They’re just in denial”

            (and I do agree with the first; not with the second)