Fellas, it’s not that your feelings don’t matter, everyone’s feelings matter, it’s that your feelings don’t matter more than the safety of others.
You’re getting mad at the wrong shit here. You’re mad at the women for not wanting to be stuck in a forest with a random dude, when in all actual fact, that decision was borne from a plethora of experience with random dudes, most of that experience being negative.
Almost all of that negativity is because there’s to fucking many creepy ass dudes making us all look bad. To be blunt, I have high hopes, and expectations from my fellow man; especially when it comes to respecting women. Yes, there’s a nontrivial number of crazy bitches out there, in the same breath, there’s a lot of crazy dudes too. They’re making us all look bad. Be mad at them.
The women are only making the best decision for their own health and safety, based on their experience. Be the change you want to see in the world, my brothers. Be that change.
The “was borne from a plethora of experience with random dudes” does not check out. Most if not all SA is from family members or close friends, never or rarely complete strangers.
It’s not SA that’s the problem here. I’m certain SA is a nontrivial factor, and I certainly wouldn’t want to imply that SA isn’t a big deal. It definitely is, but that’s not the issue I’m talking about.
Interactions from random strangers, especially on the internet for women, is definitely not a fun experience. The random, unsolicited creepy/“romantic”(also creepy)/unwanted messages from completely unknown dudes, not infrequently including pictures of penises, does not (and bluntly should not) inspire confidence for women in general. I’m certain we’ve all heard the stories of the kinds of messages sent to women on the internet.
IMO, this mountain of unsolicited content, is creating the problem.
Here’s my hot take on all this:
Fellas, it’s not that your feelings don’t matter, everyone’s feelings matter, it’s that your feelings don’t matter more than the safety of others.
You’re getting mad at the wrong shit here. You’re mad at the women for not wanting to be stuck in a forest with a random dude, when in all actual fact, that decision was borne from a plethora of experience with random dudes, most of that experience being negative.
Almost all of that negativity is because there’s to fucking many creepy ass dudes making us all look bad. To be blunt, I have high hopes, and expectations from my fellow man; especially when it comes to respecting women. Yes, there’s a nontrivial number of crazy bitches out there, in the same breath, there’s a lot of crazy dudes too. They’re making us all look bad. Be mad at them.
The women are only making the best decision for their own health and safety, based on their experience. Be the change you want to see in the world, my brothers. Be that change.
Can we fix this comment for the whole lemmy instance to read?
Well said.
The “was borne from a plethora of experience with random dudes” does not check out. Most if not all SA is from family members or close friends, never or rarely complete strangers.
It’s not SA that’s the problem here. I’m certain SA is a nontrivial factor, and I certainly wouldn’t want to imply that SA isn’t a big deal. It definitely is, but that’s not the issue I’m talking about.
Interactions from random strangers, especially on the internet for women, is definitely not a fun experience. The random, unsolicited creepy/“romantic”(also creepy)/unwanted messages from completely unknown dudes, not infrequently including pictures of penises, does not (and bluntly should not) inspire confidence for women in general. I’m certain we’ve all heard the stories of the kinds of messages sent to women on the internet.
IMO, this mountain of unsolicited content, is creating the problem.