• zaphod
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    2 months ago

    And I 1000% Believe my mom and her mom can take partial credit for my achievements.

    And I’ll all but guarantee you they did those things simply because they love you, not because of some grandiose idea of a “legacy” or a desperate need to live beyond their death.

    Planning for the future in order to care for your family and friends is an expression of love, not ambition.

    • Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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      2 months ago

      Totally. I wouldn’t be shocked if it never crossed thier minds. Someone like myself can’t operate without at least 2 specific reasons to do anything. I just gave one that was broad. There other reasons are more like overall personal growth or REVENGE but end of day I really think someone needs to think hard on why they want kids before they have them. My SO mom looks at us with resentment, jealousy, and pettiness because we live the life she didn’t. Of course her mom also did the same to. Just curses all the way back. Can’t have that.