On a brisk day at a restaurant outside Chicago, Deb Robertson sat with her teenage grandson to talk about her death.

She’ll probably miss his high school graduation. She declined the extended warranty on her car. Sometimes she wonders who will be at her funeral.

Those things don’t frighten her much. The 65-year-old didn’t cry when she learned two months ago that the cancerous tumors in her liver were spreading, portending a tormented death.

But later, she received a call. A bill moving through the Illinois Legislature to allow certain terminally ill patients to end their own lives with a doctor’s help had made progress.

Then she cried.

“Medical-aid in dying is not me choosing to die,” she says she told her 17-year-old grandson. “I am going to die. But it is my way of having a little bit more control over what it looks like in the end.

That same conversation is happening beside hospital beds and around dinner tables across the country, as Americans who are nearing life’s end negotiate the terms with themselves, their families and, now, state lawmakers.

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    8 months ago

    How about you calm down and don’t screech whenever you hear an opinion that doesn’t align with yours?

    From your response I think it’s fair to assume that you’re an anti social ego centric asshole as you apparently don’t care about people around me. Either that, or, you didn’t read what I wrote and jut decided to screech because “opinion I don’t agree with in the first sentence so no need to actually read”

    What I wrote is when people are a danger to mothers or themselves. You apparently are okay with people offing themselves by jumping off a bridge when they have a hard time in life whereas I would stop them and try to help them as I understand that people sometimes make the wrong decision and well, terminally wrong decisions is something I would like to prevent, unlike you.

    If a person really is suffering permanently and there is no solution, then that is a whole different story. There too, though, you can help by allowing someone to die with dignity instead of splattering themselves on the pavement accidentally taking an innocent bystander with him.

    Like it or not, you are not the only person on this world, there are people around you. You live in a society, so we need rules to ensure everyone can live as free and happy as possible without causing harm to others. You may not always like all the rules but they’re there because YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY PERSON ON THIS WORLD.

    So stop being so anti social and yelling insults when you see an opinion you disagree with. Talk, or better yet LISTEN.

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        8 months ago

        Of course you don’t, twitter TikTok and Facebook taught you that the real truth can be done in under 140 characters and 20 seconds. Long attention spans and thoughtful reasoning is bad for your health!