Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I’m wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don’t want to risk it.

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    8 months ago

    If I interpret what I see as a hint in the wrong way, and actually act on that misinterpretation, it could almost trivially lead to my arrest, conviction, and likely incarceration. And any sort of record - even if I was exonerated - could do significant to severe damage to my life-long economic potential.

    So I just don’t fucking deal with hints. The math just does not make that a viable option in any logical or rational way.

    If you, as a woman, can’t come out and converse like a functional adult, imma just gonna ignore you wholesale like the immature, games-playing child you are.

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      8 months ago

      Unless your response to a hint is sexual assault, how do you think that it’s supposed to trivially lead to your arrest?

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        Unless your response to a hint is sexual assault, how do you think that it’s supposed to trivially lead to your arrest?

        I think you need to update your 60s-era viewpoint to include unwanted attention and a metric arseload of other things a lot less severe than outright rape.

        This world isn’t black and white. There are a lot of shades of grey, and most of that spectrum has been criminalized (for men, specifically; women aren’t affected) since your obsolete and archaic viewpoint ossified itself into your brain.

        Men have been arrested for as little as making a woman uncomfortable. Even when he didn’t even realize she existed in the first place.