• Vilian
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    3 months ago

    err, not trying to be that guy, my girlfriend said that gynecology didn’t hurt, and she went to public health care here in brasil, so i think is just lack of competency, and USA health system?

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      3 months ago

      I think you need to talk to more than one girl about that… really depends on the procedure, your sensitivity down there and the competence of the gynaecologist. I’ve been to appointments that were fine and I’ve been there near crying from pain…

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        3 months ago

        true true didn’t think about that, the system need a way to report these cases where a painless procedure become pantiful because of incompetence, so the shit doctor learn how todo it properly or people start to avoid him/she

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        3 months ago

        Mostly every experience I’ve heard has been a good one. This is from Finland.

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      3 months ago

      Endometriosis is more common than people without vaginas realize and it often goes undiagnosed. My wife was gaslit about the pain of gyno procedures for two whole decades until the a doctor finally diagnosed her. A diagnosis which only came due a tubal ligation procedure forcing the doctors to physically see all the scar tissue inside her.

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        3 months ago

        Yup, my wife has it and it AMAZING how many doctors are ignorant about it. We literally had one doctor tell her she “probably didn’t have that, because Endo is a very complicated disease and blah blah blah”. Nevermind all the symptoms lining up and the fact her GRANDMA HAD IT.

        Went to a specialist surgeon focusing on it and he did a quick exam and was like “yep you have it, it felt like you have rocks in your vagina”. It was THAT obvious and yet no other fucking gyno she saw before that point noticed anything! Like doctors, please listen to your lady patients, PLEASE!

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          1 month ago

          I always like when they say, “that’s rare so you don’t have that” (in regards to any potential diagnosis, really)

          It’s like they forget that “rare” doesn’t mean “inexistent”

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            1 month ago

            Yeah, it just reminds me that not every doctor aced med school… someone had to be bottom of the class (while still technically passing).

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      3 months ago

      Your girlfriend is lucky. I’m a British woman. It hurts. How many other women need to post from how many countries to convince you?

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        3 months ago

        My girlfriend (also British) always complained it hurt until we moved and she got a new gyno and said with the new one she barely felt a thing.

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          3 months ago

          exactly that what i want to say, it don’t need to be painful and it’s the doctor fault. isn’t there a way to review these doctors, or alert others womans?, or they learn to do it properly or they start losing clients

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      3 months ago

      Sample size of 1. The point of this whole thread is that people don’t believe women when they say they are in pain. Obviously there are individual differences between patients, and differences in quality of care.

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        3 months ago

        maybe, but from the answers look more like doctor stupidity than just certain woman being more sensitive or the exam be made literally to torture woman, not saying that the problem exist, but to fix it we need to blame correctly

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        3 months ago

        I’m not conditioned to anything. I won’t argue I’m probably lucky but I’ve had 3 gynecologists in my life and routine examinations have been uncomfortable but have never hurt or made me cry.

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        It’s not uncommon for medical procedures to hurt btw. An episiotomy is a surgery, though, and where I’m from it’s always done with anesthesia. Could be a US thing to do it without. It’s also not a “terrible thing” but a sometimes necessary procedure that can greatly benefit a mother and child when giving birth

        Edit: Just to be clear, though: There is definitely loads of stuff to criticize about gynecological procedures.

        Edit 2: Also, calling out an episiotomy like that is just unreasonable imo