Even in school. Remember those group projects where the teacher assigned the groups to force kids to mingle or whatever? But one kid just ends up doing all the work anyway because the others didn’t give a fuck? That was me—I was the one kid who did all the work.
That was me for all of school. Then in my 4th year of uni I had a week where I had like 5 major assignments due all at the same time, and I decided I would be “that guy” on one of my group projects in order to give myself time to get the other stuff done. It was very deliberate and targeted, not at all like those people who just genuinely slack at everything. I knew what I was doing and I knew what I was inflicting on the other group members and I felt bad, but I still did it. It worked perfectly, and what I learned is that someone always arises to fill the power vacuum. If it isn’t you, it will be someone else. You just need to know whether or not you are okay with entrusting your grade to that person.
That was me for all of school. Then in my 4th year of uni I had a week where I had like 5 major assignments due all at the same time, and I decided I would be “that guy” on one of my group projects in order to give myself time to get the other stuff done. It was very deliberate and targeted, not at all like those people who just genuinely slack at everything. I knew what I was doing and I knew what I was inflicting on the other group members and I felt bad, but I still did it. It worked perfectly, and what I learned is that someone always arises to fill the power vacuum. If it isn’t you, it will be someone else. You just need to know whether or not you are okay with entrusting your grade to that person.