Teachers describe a deterioration in behaviour and attitudes that has proved to be fertile terrain for misogynistic influencers

“As soon as I mention feminism, you can feel the shift in the room; they’re shuffling in their seats.” Mike Nicholson holds workshops with teenage boys about the challenges of impending manhood. Standing up for the sisterhood, it seems, is the last thing on their minds.

When Nicholson says he is a feminist himself, “I can see them look at me, like, ‘I used to like you.’”

Once Nicholson, whose programme is called Progressive Masculinity, unpacks the fact that feminism means equal rights and opportunities for women, many of the boys with whom he works are won over.

“A lot of it is bred from misunderstanding and how the word is smeared,” he says.

But he is battling against what he calls a “dominance-based model” of masculinity. “These old-fashioned, regressive ideas are having a renaissance, through your masculinity influencers – your grifters, like Andrew Tate.”

  • rab
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    Every person I know who was home schooled is socially incompatible and I hope you reconsider your decision for your daughter’s sake. Public school is hell but so is the rest of life after it, you can’t shelter her forever.

    And boys fight, it’s part of growing up. I don’t know how you went to a public school and fighting wasn’t common.

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      Again, online schooling is not the same as homeschooling and she has more friends now than when she was in public school.

      Why the fuck would I reconsider my decision to help stop her from being suicidal?

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        Well that context is kind of important

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          The context of her mental health may be important, but people not knowing the difference between homeschooling and online schooling is not my fault. Homeschooling is where the parent is the teacher. Online schooling is taught by real licensed teachers. She has classes every day via live video meetings. She has the same textbooks kids in public schools have because they all have Pierson textbooks due to Pierson’s monopoly. It is a state school, not a private school so there is no tuition and it has to adhere to state education standards.

          None of that is true about homeschooling.

          And I’m sorry, but I am not going to admit culpability for people not knowing the difference between the two and just assuming they’re the same.

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            Still not developing real social skills in online classes. Social skills is by far the most important thing kids learn during their time in school, the curriculum being good is a bonus.

            I know what online school is and you’re still at home. Homeschooling.

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              As I have already said at least twice now, she has more friends now than she did when she was in public school. She has more self-esteem now that she is no longer in public school. She is asking to go to things like events at the teen room at the library and make friends when she wasn’t even willing to join afterschool clubs about things that interested her.

              Maybe read some of my other comments? I go into great detail about this.

              You do not know my daughter. You do not know her situation. You do not know what you are talking about. I can see you’re trying to castigate me for being an abusive parent, so just come out and say it.

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                You’re very dramatic.

                • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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                  Yeah, maybe it’s something about someone implying I’m abusing my child when I am literally stopping her from committing suicide.

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                    Yeah, maybe stop broadcasting your daughter’s personal life publicly on an open federated system on the internet then?

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                    If it’s such a touchy subject for you then why did you post about it to begin with. Log out bro.