• bionicjoey
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    The other day I got unmatched by a girl on a dating app because she wanted my WhatsApp and not a phone number. We literally had already agreed to go on a first date and then she’s like “I don’t use my phone much so you need to use WhatsApp” and I’m like “I don’t have WhatsApp, here’s my cell number: XXX-XXX-XXXX” and then she disappeared from my matches on Hinge lol

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      A few possible guesses.

      1. She has no sim card and exclusively uses whatsapp for calling.
      2. She doesn’t want you to know her number unless she gets to know you.
      3. She’s lying or scamming.

      I’m leaning towards number 2 if you’re outside the US, because I imagine I’d rather set up a new profile than change my phone number. If you’re inside the US, I’d bet it’s number 3. Whatsapp doesn’t seem to be as popular in the US.

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        100% #3. one of the reasons I’ve stopped using dating apps is all the scammers. That and it’s a literal meat market, where you’re constantly having to talk to multiple people because so many just ghost you, and every message you send better be lighthearted, funny, amusing, and flirty or else fuck you.

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          and every message you send better be lighthearted, funny, amusing, and flirty or else fuck you.

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        I’m in Canada but it’s not super popular here either. Although she was foreign so she may have had a different take on WA

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      That’s fishy. Unless you are a business WhatsApp needs a cell number and a phone. And I think even then they are needed.

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        I assume she had a cell phone since we were using Hinge (which AFAIK is only a mobile app). She just said she never used her phone. Which, like… you’re using it right now?

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      I go through this a lot with matches. I just give them a list of the messengers I use. And then hopefully we can find something in the middle. If they insist on meta based messaging (Whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram), I actually just politely decline or more accuratly just stop messaging.

      Here nobody actually texts with their phone.