Police say a former student came forward claiming that when he was 14, Melissa Curtis, 31, sexually abused him

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        pedophile noun pe·​do·​phile ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l ˈpē- : one affected with pedophilia

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          I thought it had something to do with feet.

          According to wikipedia:

          Pedophilia (alternatively spelled paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.


          Is 14 generally considered to be ‘prepubescent’?

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        Jesus fuck. A minor should have nothing sexual associated with them, in either your imagination or in their reality. There is no grey area.

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          I disapprove sexual acts of any kind towards underaged people.
          I don’t seek to defend people who do such acts.

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          That being said -
          Acts and speech can harm people.
          Thoughts that you keep to yourself and that will never make you do harm to anyone, no matter what kind of thoughts they are, should have no negative consequences to anybody else than you. What about you then? Well, it might depend… (and is another story)

          I’d say it’s (much) better to delve in ones fantasies while minding your own business and through that cope with whatever is going on in your mind than to mindlessly go and act on whatever you want to do without any consideration. Being it stealing cars or blowing up places or…flirt with a kid.
          People need ways and tools to deal with whatever in a constructive way.

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          Have you ever experienced a thought that someone might consider not being normal, or might even judge you about?

          For instance - it’s better to let steam off aggressiveness through violent games than to go out there and - well, I’m sure you understand my point by now.
          Why should a lewd fictional story written on a paper be any different?

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            I hope the police find you before you decide that imagination isn’t enough one day. The entertainment of the thoughts isn’t controlled by everyone, and the content you claim is innocent leads many onto actual acts.

            Get help, or remove yourself from society, before you hurt someone that has nothing to do with your illness.

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              …and the content you claim is innocent leads many onto actual acts.

              Of course some people still go onto the path of no return and end up doing something sinister to somebody.
              I would argue though that they already have (extra) challenges with their minds that push them over the edge to act on ill-adviced decisions.

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              I am not suggesting anyone here to take advantage of kids. Or to do anything else harmful to anyone. I am merely trying to bring other points of views in here and say that thoughts alone should not incriminate anyone. Is that really punishable? I have already said in another comment that I don’t defend people who act to hurt others.
              Again - I define acts punishable only if they harm people. What’s it to you whatever everybody is thinking or dreaming about when there is no evidence of nobody getting harmed from it?

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              Hmm. You sound like you are referring to me with your accusations, accusing me of being a pedophile. Do my opinions and thoughts on the subject alone make you think that way?
              I understand how you may feel about this. This is a difficult topic and many people are sensitive about it. The common, public opinion easily is to want to lock up everyone who even thinks towards a way many deem wrong, or even straight kill them. To strike down even the ones who never harmed anyone.
              But I have the right to speak my mind, and I want to do that in a civilized, polite way without judging anybody (I only judge the actions, and the actions can be punishable). Not even you.
              You also have your right of speaking up your mind, as you did.

              But - at the end of the day, you can believe in whatever you make out of this conversation. I don’t think I can affect your decisions once you’re chosen in what to believe. And I won’t try neither.
              I wish you a good day 🙂Look after your loved ones, mate!

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        This is one of those things that, if you feel the need to draw a distinction, you’re doing something wrong and need to stop.

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          Anyone who doesn’t want to know more about something their passionate about seems suspect to me.

          Knowing these kinds of things can help discover the reasons for why they happen, and thus help prevent it in the future. Saying there’s no point in discussing it is saying you don’t actually want to do anything about it, you just want to be angry about it.

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            If the discussion is around getting help to prevent thoughts regarding sexualized children, then the conversation can happily continue.

            If the conversation is about how it’s ok as long as you keep it to yourself, that’s an idiotic viewpoint as it disregards the fact that the content you seek is created by harming innocent victims.

            Ideally you’ll find help, but I’ll be happy if you get brutalized daily in prison until you’re broken and comatose.

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          Knowledge can be pain.
          Knowledge can also lead to learning something (new) and to make something better.

          I’d say it’s difficult to solve problems if you don’t know, what is what or what is going on in the first place.
          It’s easier to help people overcome problems and to possibly treat deficiencies or non-normal behavior when you learn their story and when you start working on it together 🙂

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          No. You’re just someone who doesn’t want to acknowledge nuance if it doesn’t suit your agenda.

          Glad I’ve come to recognize your kind for what they are.

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            You’re arguing for nuance in a thread about a grown woman raping a 14 year old child. You’ve left several comments saying how lucky the kid is. You are fucking disgusting.

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              Yeah. Thanks for proving my point.

              Gonna block you now.

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                Good? You’re either a pedophile or a pedophile apologist. I reported you either way lol.

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            Just remember that you will be found, and you will not be treated well by those that you’re locked away with.

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          And a few of their pedo friends or alternate accounts downvoting anyone that thinks children shouldn’t be the subject of sexual exploration.