In your example everyone is throwing knives. Not throwing knives gets you shunned where you might starve to death. Leaders repeatedly make speeches about how children who get hit by knives are a tragedy, but we’re already doing our best! This is explicitly to ease social guilt and confound the morals of everyone who doesn’t have the luxury of being able to sit down and study the system.
I can’t blame the people in that system for hitting kids with throwing knives. In fact the ones who hit kids are doubly traumatized because they have to live with the consequences of actions they were coerced into performing. This is especially true if they were also hit by a knife as a kid!
I blame the system and the people running it. You should too. It’s deeply childish to assume everyone shares the privilege required for having a proper leftist worldview in a system that literally criminalizes it. Someone is facing 20 years in jail for having a leftist zine with a feminist review of midsommar right now and you expect every parent to have a critical understanding of economic and social coercion???
There is a difference between hate and blame. It’s perfectly reasonable to hate someone for trauma they inflicted in a way they can’t constructively be blamed for. Hatred is a way to create psychological and physical distance so the trauma and accompanying schemas can heal, or at least not be triggered as often. Something has to prevent your love for your parents from getting you in harm’s way time and time again. And expressing hatred can help process it, as you’ve helped me do just now.
Because you’re right, I did muddy that difference in my mind while writing the comment. It’s not that they should have been leftists, but that they should have been leftists.
I would say you don’t even need to hate. If someone hit you with a knife, and is still unrepentant throwing knives and defending knife throwing, then you should rightly get away from that person for your own safety.
Just because they can’t be blamed for participating in the system doesn’t mean you have to accept them as they are or forgive them when they hurt you. It’s like free speech, you can say what you want but I don’t have to stay here and listen.
It’s cool you considered what I said. Most people, often including me, just like to argue. I really enjoyed reading your reply and interpretation.
In your example everyone is throwing knives. Not throwing knives gets you shunned where you might starve to death. Leaders repeatedly make speeches about how children who get hit by knives are a tragedy, but we’re already doing our best! This is explicitly to ease social guilt and confound the morals of everyone who doesn’t have the luxury of being able to sit down and study the system.
I can’t blame the people in that system for hitting kids with throwing knives. In fact the ones who hit kids are doubly traumatized because they have to live with the consequences of actions they were coerced into performing. This is especially true if they were also hit by a knife as a kid!
I blame the system and the people running it. You should too. It’s deeply childish to assume everyone shares the privilege required for having a proper leftist worldview in a system that literally criminalizes it. Someone is facing 20 years in jail for having a leftist zine with a feminist review of midsommar right now and you expect every parent to have a critical understanding of economic and social coercion???
There is a difference between hate and blame. It’s perfectly reasonable to hate someone for trauma they inflicted in a way they can’t constructively be blamed for. Hatred is a way to create psychological and physical distance so the trauma and accompanying schemas can heal, or at least not be triggered as often. Something has to prevent your love for your parents from getting you in harm’s way time and time again. And expressing hatred can help process it, as you’ve helped me do just now.
Because you’re right, I did muddy that difference in my mind while writing the comment. It’s not that they should have been leftists, but that they should have been leftists.
I would say you don’t even need to hate. If someone hit you with a knife, and is still unrepentant throwing knives and defending knife throwing, then you should rightly get away from that person for your own safety.
Just because they can’t be blamed for participating in the system doesn’t mean you have to accept them as they are or forgive them when they hurt you. It’s like free speech, you can say what you want but I don’t have to stay here and listen.
It’s cool you considered what I said. Most people, often including me, just like to argue. I really enjoyed reading your reply and interpretation.