Hey. As a man, I resent being lumped in with Elon on this.
The whole “but they do the bad thing” is a what about-ism; and many of us don’t associate with people who we need to do mental gymnastics to justify their actions.
If I had a friend or acquaintance who was a child r*pist, I would have one less friend or acquaintances the day I found that out. I don’t need anyone in my life that I have to justify their actions because of how shitty they actually are. My life is complicated, and/or, difficult enough… I don’t need people in it that add to that with their drama and/or felony criminal activity. I don’t care how “important” or “influential” they are, I will just remove myself from the situation and politely decline any future interactions with that individual regardless of all other factors.
Since I started abiding by this philosophy, I’ve lost more “friends” than I care to count, but the friends I still have, are people actually worth knowing. They’re people who make me better as a person. I hope they feel the same about me, but that’s entirely up to them to make a decision about.
In any case. Generalizing an entire gender because of the actions of one dude? Not cool. That would be like if I based my opinions on women off of the example set by someone like Carla Homolka. First of all, fuck that bitch and the horse she rode in on; she should eat the curb for the horrors she has committed; but also, she is not an example by which anyone should base an opinion on, about women in general.
Elon may be arguably less horrible than Homolka, but I think I’ve made my point.
Hey, so, notice how no women are jumping in to defend themselves or carla homolka? None of us jumping in to object to not being adequately distanced from her?
Why men can’t be taken seriously you mean? I don’t know who this Carla Homolka person is, but if you had a post comparing every woman to their actions on the basis of their sex I’m pretty sure you would get women defending themselves in exactly the same way (assuming this person did something terrible from context).
I’m not sure how you don’t see that using “you people” in this way is acceptable in generalizing any other group. There’s definitely a pass, socially, when aiming those words at men. Ask yourself why that is.
Hey. As a man, I resent being lumped in with Elon on this.
The whole “but they do the bad thing” is a what about-ism; and many of us don’t associate with people who we need to do mental gymnastics to justify their actions.
If I had a friend or acquaintance who was a child r*pist, I would have one less friend or acquaintances the day I found that out. I don’t need anyone in my life that I have to justify their actions because of how shitty they actually are. My life is complicated, and/or, difficult enough… I don’t need people in it that add to that with their drama and/or felony criminal activity. I don’t care how “important” or “influential” they are, I will just remove myself from the situation and politely decline any future interactions with that individual regardless of all other factors.
Since I started abiding by this philosophy, I’ve lost more “friends” than I care to count, but the friends I still have, are people actually worth knowing. They’re people who make me better as a person. I hope they feel the same about me, but that’s entirely up to them to make a decision about.
In any case. Generalizing an entire gender because of the actions of one dude? Not cool. That would be like if I based my opinions on women off of the example set by someone like Carla Homolka. First of all, fuck that bitch and the horse she rode in on; she should eat the curb for the horrors she has committed; but also, she is not an example by which anyone should base an opinion on, about women in general.
Elon may be arguably less horrible than Homolka, but I think I’ve made my point.
Hey, so, notice how no women are jumping in to defend themselves or carla homolka? None of us jumping in to object to not being adequately distanced from her?
This is why you people can’t be taken seriously.
Why men can’t be taken seriously you mean? I don’t know who this Carla Homolka person is, but if you had a post comparing every woman to their actions on the basis of their sex I’m pretty sure you would get women defending themselves in exactly the same way (assuming this person did something terrible from context).
I’m not sure how you don’t see that using “you people” in this way is acceptable in generalizing any other group. There’s definitely a pass, socially, when aiming those words at men. Ask yourself why that is.