cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/43713029
Some idiot told me that I don’t talk like a woman, that I talk like a man. Not that my voice sounds masculine (it doesn’t) but that I “use masculine words or phrases” what the fuck does that even mean?
If there’s a better community to post this please let me know and I’ll delete this and post it again there.
Edit: They aren’t a man, they’re a woman. She definitely gave off the JK Rowling TERF vibes though.
Crossposted this here just in case anyone here has anything to add the the other community didn’t say. I know trans experiences can bring new perspectives.
There’s a pernicious bit of socialization where women are often stymied from being directly assertive. Often they are rewarded for concensus seeking behaviour - euphemism, gentle value neutral phrasing, permission seeking, not interrupting and ceeding the floor. This socialization pattern rewards quiet and service in favour of other people’s emotions often at the direct cost of one’s own.
It’s not a good thing because it trains women to conveniently fade into the background, never center themselves publicly and builds in an instant hesitation every time they speak that takes years of work to undo. It’s effectively the female version of the socialization of men to never express their emotional needs except through anger. In this version one is denied anger or any form of strong self advocacy instead limiting women to a toolbox of subtle manipulations. It fucks women up.
If that is what was intended by this person it’s a very shitty standard to hold women to and they are a misogynistic prick. You are better off without that baggage.