in my past crusing thru autism posts on the bad site, once in a while somebody would post something talking about this and it was like reading my own experience in somebody else’s words.

for those of you who read the subject line and know exactly what I’m talking about: can you also never shut off masking except when alone and in fact can’t even relate to the concept of being able to “not mask” around others? or maybe around 99.99999% of the human race apart from a few people you know well and have known for years?

I’ve found (thru being homeless and couchsurfing starting well into adulthood haha do not recommend) that I can’t live with most people, even introverts, because their activity pattern is not like my parents that I grew up with, and so my brain fixates on what they’re doing and then I hear every. human. sound. in the house. at full attentional processing. every waking moment of my life. forever.

this decimates my ability to work because I touch computers for a living and I can only touch them correctly in 1 of 2 ways, either collab with others using tools like kanban and a ticket system, or solo hyperfocus for days on end, which has 0% chance of happening without the above going on…

but I got off topic. the question I am curious about is: if you relate to the subject line of the post, do you think the mental energy drain comes from being unable to shut off your awareness of (potentially) being perceived by others in the house; by your having to keep your mask on standby, warmed up and ready to go at all times when others are in the house; or, both? and do you have other thoughts on this particular topic which I suspect is related to a subtle but extremely impactful neurotrait some few tortured souls among us have???