I’ve always wondered this. Some people have trouble with dating because they try to go for people out of their league who don’t like them back. But society also tells us that we can’t choose who we are attracted to. Like for example, no one makes a “choice” to be gay.

So what happens when you’re only attracted to those out of their league that will never ever like them back?

Do the people with this issue still date? But when they date, they lie to their partner that they are into them? I have been on a couple of dates with someone I wasn’t into before. It make me incredibly guilty and dishonest that I did not like them back.

Curious as to the experience/thoughts of others.

Apologies if this is the wrong community. I will remove on request. Thanks.

  • BlameThePeacockEnglish
    2·
    18 hours ago

    There’s a way to bring those circles together. Focus on improving yourself.

    • edgemaster72@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      35 minutes ago

      Nah, I don’t think so. I could try, but…

      it’s just easier not to try, so I don’t.

      I’m too far gone. Absolute failure of a human being. I am the human incarnation of a softlock, technically functional but no progress can be made.

      And in some aspects I’d rather not. Like, I’m just a boring and uncreative person. I read Lemmy, watch some Youtube and some TV, and that’s about all I want to do. I could never go along with the social actions needed to enter into or maintain a relationship.