I have a friend who is 60, the same age as me. Her husband is 83, and she is about to put him in a nursing home because of his vascular dementia. It has been very difficult for her, especially because she has been looking after her mother, who just died.

I think that their time together has been good, but the odds of having to nurse someone significantly older than you who is dying are much higher than for someone your own age.

Not a warning, but something to think about.