This is me.

In public dns, configure *.home.example.com as an A record pointing to the local IP for my traefik container.

Traefik then manages all certificates. It sets a TXT record with my dns providers API like privatesercice.home.lebowheatcroft.com, requests the cert from letsencrypt, then deletes that TXT record.

Yes the local IP of my server is leaked, but names of services are not.

I think you’re pretty much talking about the fundamental attribution error. It’s a cognitive bias whereby we interpret the actions of others as the result of their character, but attribute our own behavior to external situational things.

I think another component of this is generalisation, like how often does someone have to do mean things to qualify as “an asshole”. Once in a lifetime? Once a year? Every day? All day?

I used to think I was a super nice person. These days I will absolutely acknowledge that there are times when people would think I was a bit of an asshole. I think sometimes it’s unavoidable if you don’t want to be everyone’s door mat. For example, when you disagree with someone sometimes you can just let it go to keep the peace, but if you feel strongly about it for whatever reason and have to stand your ground, it’s easy to end up looking like an asshole.

He could become non-verbal as the result of a severe stroke, and it wouldn’t hurt him at the polls. Come to think of it, he would probably be a better president that way soo…

I’m not advocating for the devil, I’m merely skeptical about this advertorial for a docudrama.

If you want to continue believing that 50 year olds don’t find 23 year olds attractive, then more power to you.

I didn’t say they were a rebadge car company. Just pointing out that if you buy a Koleos in Australia, it will have been manufactured in Korea.

IDK much about Renault’s, or cars for that matter, but isn’t renault one of the badges which is really just a badge now?

My grandfather swore by renaults. They were expensive because they were imported from France (to Australia).

Now, they’re one of the cheapest cars on the road because they’re manufactured in Korea. They have terrible resale value because rightly or wrongly, they’re perceived to be very poor quality.

What I mean to say is, does renault the company really make cars, or do they just license their badge to whoever can make the cheapest Megane? I honestly don’t know but that’s the impression I get.

Ugh. The ad hominem is childish.

What you or “most people” think is creepy is irrelevant, because that’s the very definition of subjective.

You’re absolutely entitled to make judgements about age discrepancies in other peoples relationships if you wish, but labeling them evil or manipulative or criminal on that basis is presumptive.

Nah. If you’re catch and release then stremio is much better than all of this. Install the app on your Android TV, get debrid for a few dollars, and you’re off to the races. Great wife approval factor.

I know I shouldn’t be but I’m just kind of astonished.

I get that some states are predominantly red voters, but how many people must be involved in this process, and among them not a single person with a shred of integrity. I’m a lefty, but I’d like to think that if I was in a position to have any input into a process like this, I’m pretty sure I would be screaming blue bloody murder, even if the money was going to my own preferred party.

It’s just so embarrassingly obviously corrupt. I would be genuinely ashamed to be involved, even if my involvement was simply not saying anything.

Amongst christians I think there’s a general consensus that they’re the good guys.

Honestly sometimes getting downvoted to oblivion on Lemmy is a key indicator that you’re not 14 and have some life experience beyond selfhosting a minecraft server.

The article is a promotion for a docudrama.

Of course what happened to her is truly, genuinely sad, but millions of young women lose or ruin their lives over drugs every year. They don’t get their own docudrama because they’re less pretty, or less relatable, or have less respectable abusers.

That’s subjective.

If you have a narrow definition of a “normal relationship” then sure, anything else is creepy and weird and someone must be manipulating someone.

I’m sorry to inform you that there are a great many 50 year olds who would absolutely party with 23 year olds given the means. In fact I would suggest that almost all sexually active 50 year olds, who are free of romantic entanglement would knock on that door. Fewer would be interested in setting up a long term committed relationship, but still a significant portion. Bars and brothels and strip clubs are full to the brim with these “abnormals” every night of the week.

Actually, there are a great many cultures in which this type of age disparity is the norm. I’m certainly not arguing that it’s ideal or even “better” than your definition of a “normal relationship”, just demonstrating that your views are indeed subjective.

It’s really only creepy if the 23 year old doesn’t appreciate the attention, or doesn’t reciprocate, or is manipulated.

Yes it would be possible for a 50 year old to manipulate a 23 year old with lavish gifts. It’s also possible for a 23 year old to manipulate a 23 year old with lavish gifts. It’s also possible for a 23 year old to manipulate a 50 year old into giving them lavish gifts. It’s also possible for a 50 year old to simply want to impress the object of his desires with nice things.

It’s absolutely fine for you to find the age disparity creepy. It’s also absolutely fine for others to engage in this type of relationship.

Hah.

Firstly, I wasn’t complaining.

Secondly, I suspect I’ve touched a nerve. Are you the fieflord of some Alexandrian repository of enlightened content and discord? Do you find it fulfilling?

You realise it’s an article about a TV series which only quotes a grieving mother and a retired cop right?

Maybe take another look at the article with just a modicum of scepticism.

I’m struggling.

This sounds like the start of most relationships.

Perhaps separated by degree, but mostly the wealth imbalance.

Right 50 year old showers young desirable woman with gifts, hardly uncommon.

Because modding online communities is a huge waste of time for anyone who isn’t desperate for validation.

Rage quit LOL.

And in at least one case, Ryan appears to have actually administered the drugs to Sarah himself. On Dec. 20, 2021, he’d written “If you wake up … I just went to change, after I gave you Ketamine just now …”

This message? That’s not what this says.

If I asked someone to give me ketamine, and they did, I would go to sleep. If I woke up and wondered where they were, it would be nice of them to have left me a message saying they’d just gone to get changed and would come back.

OTOH if someone gave me ketamime while I was asleep in order to control me somehow, they probably wouldn’t leave me a message telling me they had done so.

Can you help me understand love-and-money-bombed?

That sounds kinda great compared to my 20s, in which I had no love nor money and was ultimately miserable and lonely.

I mostly agree.

Yes the guy was criminally reckless with the drugs he had access to professionally.

The rest of this article is just a narrative really.

Plenty of people do drugs in their 20s. She was getting them from her sugar daddy. Every parent that lost a child to addiction could write a similar story.

What’s more startling is that users here somehow think that 50 year olds don’t want to party with 23 year old beauty pageant hotties, and that 23 year old beauty pageant hotties don’t want to do drugs and live large with 50 year old dudes.